Need advice

Married for two years we have been together for nine years. She has lied to me many times over the years sometimes for no real reason. At times it felt like we were together just to be together something was missing. I recently found out that she has been looking her ex up our whole relationship once or twice a year with some effort. I asked her about it she said it was out of curiosity until I saw how many times. She even searched directions to his work by the address. When I asked her about this she said that she didn't know why and she didn't remember

hello, first of all have you spoken to your partner clearly? i think the most important thing to do is make sure she knows how you're feeling. I recommend you sit down with her, let out your feelings and emotions and what you're scared of. Moreover, make sure you know yourself what you're planning to say. Do not start by accusing her, start by telling her how much you care for her and how much she means to you. your wife may, as she said, simply just have been curious. I know myself, that i sometimes (as silly as this feels) look up my exes online to see how they are doing, but this is not because I still hold feelings for them, but it's simply because is genuinely interesting. Question her further about the directions to his work, and make sure you make it clear to her that you have a right to be worried, i hope this helps! and i hope everything between you and your partner work out :)