Making the move

My marriage has felt dead for many years now, we hardly ever speak and we don’t do anything together anymore. I have decided it is time to move on as there is another lady that has recently come into my life but I don’t know how to make the first step to leave my wife. There are a few years outstanding on the mortgage, we are jointly responsible for this. My youngest child still lives at home but is now 19 years old. If my wife knew I was leaving her for another woman would this bare any difference to my legal share of the property? I don’t wish to have to put her or my son through too much stress as they have done nothing to deserve this and I would prefer them to be able to stay in the home and I would accept responsibility of paying half towards the mortgage until it is all paid for. However my new girlfriend is living with her younger children (both minors) and she is main carer for one who has disabilities. She doesn’t work and claims housing benefit for a private rented property that at present costs twice as much as my mortgage does. I’m sure my wages would not be able to cover half my mortgage and her rent so do you think that the benefits office would take into consideration my other financial commitments if we were to apply to them jointly?

leaving a problem and going to another problem is not the best way to do.. if you leave your wife take down how many people will be affected.. if you will leave your girlfriend how many people will be affected and take note exclude yourself... if your a man.. you should do the right thing.. you can go with your girlfriend. but you will never be happy totally if you see your old family is unhappy...