With my husband

I got married 13 months back and have a 3months old daughter. my relationship with my husband goes back 10 years. I was 21 when I was dating him. now my husband, was 7 years older to me. Since I had to call off the relationship due to family and personal reasons, my husband ended up getting married to another girl in a state of rebound. AS he tells me now, that he never got over me adn did not love her either. We kept in touch through mails once in a while but he never told me about it. Finally, we met again 6 years back and we started dating again without me knowing that he was married and that he has a daughter out of that marriage. One fine day I discovered about his status and after a lot of hurt, bickering, arguments and my hurt, he ended up divorcing her to be with me. She knew about me and he had told her honestly that he was in love with me and that he never got over me. While he lied to me then, I still ended up marrying him because I knew that I could not be happy without him. Afterall, I had spend 10 years of my life in love with him so I had a chance to make a life with him. This being the background, I hate it when he meets his daughter once in a while. Emotionally, as much as I was hurt, his ex-wife's presence still haunts me. If she calls him, he doesnt not tell me most of the times saying that it is irrelevant and that it upsets me. I know he loves me and takes care of all my comforts and well'being. He is always there when I need him. But what puts me off is that he lies to me over trivial things and does not share anything with me. As many times I share this problem with him, he understands that I am right but naturally cannot work to address it. Though he tries, but cant pull it off for too long. Because of all these things, I am beginning to fall out of this and dont feel connectd to him any longer. The date I was going to have my baby, I discovered a mail that he had sent to a girl saying mushy, romantic things. It upset me a lot but he again had a reason to give me that he was just playing along with her for a business interest n he swore by our daughter that it did not mean anything neither did he sleep with her. I think he loved me until it was a challenge for him to get me in his life for good. Now that we are married, I think he still looks out for some trills in life with other women. DO I need help or he does?

Friend You need to give space to your husband and trust on him.There are phases come in everyone life where we feel my wife/husband didn't love me any more. But most of the time it is not true, in reality this phase needs to be dealt by showing trust on them more than ever and trying some new thing in your life. Dont force your husband to love you more and be loyal to you only but make him feel why you are special in his life . Arguing will only weaken the roots of your relationship . You need to do some adjustment and some tune your understanding because you are a wife and not a girlfriend.Dedication of a guy towards GF's are most of the time is different than towards wife.Please understand this as well.Try changing your mentality and trust level towards your husband and see if this works.Best of luck for your future.