We need to get our marriage back on track, can anyone offer some advice?

Hi, my husband told me 16 days ago that our marriage is over, I have tried talking to him and tried to find out what is wrong, but it was only last night that he told me why. Our marriage was put under a lot of strain 14 months ago as we moved house and had the neighbours from hell. We moved 6 months ago and he said to himself (i had no idea about this) that he would give it 6months to improve if not he was leaving. Cos of various problems with the previous neighbours and all the pain i was feeling i took it out on my husband verbally, i wanted him to feel some of the pain i was feeling. I am so ashamed to admit that i really couldnt see that i was so wrong until last night when he told me, and he said now it was too late to save our marriage. So while i am to blame mostly he should have said something sooner and made me see exactly what i was doing was wrong. I wasnt constantly on at him but everytime there was a little niggle i was on at him, i had no idea what i was doing to him, and now i see it and i hate and despise myself more than anyone else ever could. I have apoligised to him and explained that i didnt see it until he told me last night and i am mortified and know my behaviour was really out of order. I told him i needed him to help me to put things right but he wont. Really need advice ASAP as i want to save my marriage.

Remember the one thing that brought you two together and think if it is correct for your husband and you.

I think that you need to apologise for any wrongdoing that you think you might have done, but also explain that you have had no chance to change/ improve as you didn't realise that there was a time limit to your marriage- sometimes we do take each other for granted and take our issues out on our nearest and dearest, obviously this isn't ok or healthy but you're only human! Is he the type of guy that would go to regular counselling with you?