Man needs help

Hi, my partner's son has deep rooted issues about how his mother treated him and he has been removed by police both from his mother's house and also his father's for violence. Since he left us he has done nothing to help himself and is constantly hassling his father for money and sends him abusive texts on a regular basis. His father can't help him and we have tried to persuade him to go to counselling but he denies that there's anything wrong him. He really has no idea of the real world. He won't listen to his father about going to counselling. His father won't go near him for fear of violence. This has gone on for almost a year and we both know that someone has to take him in and show him there's a better way. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.

I think the only thing you can do now is to tell him that you will all leave him alone for him to sort out his troubles -- or to remain in a deluded state and support him emotionally if possible (when he comes to you) until he realizes on his own that he doesn't have to be behaving in such a destructive manner, letting his past affect who he can be today. His past is no excuse for how he lives today, it can be well understood of WHY he is this way today, but he shouldn't let it dictate where he's going in life.