I want more from him and he's too tired

I've been with my bf for 6 years, although we both have health issues (mine was back surgery then a hysterectomy by age 28) and our relationship started well but as fizzled to nothing. We have not had sex in over a year. We live together and he tells me he loves me, but I just am not sure. For the past few years I've thought he's with me only out of laziness to find someone who better suits him. Really we do not have anything in common. He's more of a shut in and I'm more of a talk a walk in the moonlight girl. He's a night person, I'm a morning person. He doesn't show affection in public, he makes no effort to hug or kiss me. We do not cuddle. Really we coexist, but we have seen each other through some tough times. I wonder if we just grew apart and are both complacent and do not want to move on. I guess I'm just wondering ... what makes people stay together?

Sorry to hear what you both have been going through. It sounds like you both are in the same situation, neither him nor you want to take the initiative to talk about how bad things are. I believe that you both have a lot of love and history for each other, however you are not in love with each other major difference. Something is holding you, and you know what it is; financial, material stuff, afraid what people would think? these are just some examples. You know the answer stop kidding yourself and take take initiative to have the conversation that you both are so afraid to do so. You owe it to yourselves to be happy, even if it is not with each other. Good luck

We have talked many times, but unfortunately he doesn't see anything wrong. He gets upset and tells me I'm a nag when I bring up things that are important to me which he is failing to do. I came from a terrible home as a child so I didn't have great ideas of happiness as a child. He came from a home where his dad mistreated his mother and constantly treated her as if she was a maid. I feel my bf treats me that way and we've spoken about it several times. We are in love with each other and we do love each other, but I think I'm scared to leave because he is my one true love. He's been the best thing to ever happen to me and I dont' want to go back to the person I was before him.