Stuck in two relationships

I will try to make this as short as possible. My first husband was abusive and we were together for 10 years. I got out of that relationship right into another and married again fast. Soon after had a child. I have always had feelings toward 1st husband but thought feels would go away. First husband, after 4a years, has came and asked forgiveness for being abusive and says he doesnt wanna live another moment without me. We start having an affair and we act like we've never been apart. Everything good between us. I hate to do this to my current husband but my feelings are just stronger for my 1st. Do I stay in a relationship with my 2ndfirst husband just because I feel obligated or follow my heart and be with my 1st husband?

Hello Confused~ Thanks for keeping it short. You say you first husband is abusive... I honestly think that he's only being sooo good to you because he does not have you anymore, and is doing all he can to woo you so you'd be back in his arms -- just to abuse you AGAIN. You may think he's changed, that he won't hurt you anymore, that he is a new man, and although that could be possible, I really don't think it is the case -- but you never know. Since you're already having an affair anyway, I think you could try telling your 1st husband that you are no longer with your 2nd husband, and see his reaction, and see how he treats you after that for like a week or two.. even though that's kind of a short period of time. There is no rush for this though, by the way. But I only want to ensure that he won't ever hurt you again before you get back with him. I think it is important that you tell your 2nd husband about this if or when you plan to leave him, because it just isn't fair that he married you and had a child with you (it's his child, right?), while you still have love for your 1st. Or actually, for now, you can ask for time apart from both of them to see where you want to be, if what your next decision will be beneficial to you or not. You really need to decide on that. I don't really understand the part about the after 4 years thing. Was this after you broke up from being together for 10 years? Or was it during the 10 years you were together..? 4 years is a long time... OR have you been with your 2nd husband for 4 years and your 1st husband came back? I think you perhaps should leave your 2nd husband since you don't feel that strongly for him, that you feel obligated for him anyway, and from there, you can decide whether or not to be with your 1st husband again -- but this time, PLEASE do NOT get married again; it only complicates your matters even more.

I must say I agree with the last reply why go back to your 1st hubby who abusive you. You are asking for trouble and when the dust has settle and starts up again who are you going to blame. As for hubby no 2 you never thought much about him otherwise you won't be seeing no 1. At the end of the day out of the frying pan, into the fire.