From knowing each other for years to ghosting

A guy and my self have known each other and our families for years. Literally since I was in dipers (he's a few years older than me). But a few years ago (both over 20years old) we started speaking to each other more and more and not just the basic "how's the family" thing, real deep conversations. When this all started we where living in different countries on different sides of the world. This back and forth messaging wasn't a day to day thing as time zones can be hard but it was pretty frequent. As the conversation grew so did the understanding that we found each other attractive so the flirty and some times (quite sexual) messages started aswell. (Which we both enjoyed and took part in) So after a few years of doing this we are both now living in the same country again and not too far away from each other. So one day I'm around seeing some members of his family and I message him saying I'm around and we should hang out and he agrees at first but things keep coming up and he cancels plans. A couple months go by and we are still messaging (including sexual stuff). When I decided one day to messge him and say I still want and love those conversations we've been having for literal years but I don't want to do the flirty/sexual stuff anymore as I dont want to confuse anything if nothing going to come from it . And his response was to just send me the thumbs up emoji. It has been a 6 months now and we haven't spoken since. And honestly I don't know how to feel about it. His family keeps asking if things are okay between us because they knew we were messaging each other (but not to what extreme) and now can see we are not. What should I do? Tell his family what went down or just try and ignore it?

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Hi again ES! Right! Not reading ahead, going in gut-first.... "A guy and my self have known each other and our families for years. Literally since I was in dipers (he's a few years older than me). But a few years ago (both over 20years old) we started speaking to each other more and more and not just the basic "how's the family" thing, real deep conversations." I need more data and details, please. 1. Conversations held, using what media, please, starting from most common to least? 2. Can you recall any of the topics, please? 5. Were they mainly about (a) him; (b) you, (c) roughly half and half. 6. Who did most of the talking/typing, overall? "When this all started we where living in different countries on different sides of the world." 7. Then what was he thinking? How were you supposed to meet often enough to build a closer relationship? "This back and forth messaging wasn't a day to day thing as time zones can be hard" Precisely! "but it was pretty frequent." 8. HOW frequent, specifically? "As the conversation grew so did the understanding that we found each other attractive so the flirty and some times (quite sexual) messages" started as well. (Which we both enjoyed and took part in)" In other words - phone sex, yes? "So after a few years of doing this we are both now living in the same country again and not too far away from each other." 9. Who moved to whose country? 10. Whose idea was it? "So one day I'm around seeing some members of his family" Okay - strike Question 9. You moved to his country. Back to question 10. "and I message him saying I'm around and we should hang out and he agrees at first but things keep coming up and he cancels plans." A couple months go by and we are still messaging (including sexual stuff). When I decided one day to messge him and say I still want and love those conversations we've been having for literal years but I don't want to do the flirty/sexual stuff anymore as I dont want to confuse anything if nothing going to come from it . And his response was to just send me the thumbs up emoji." It has been a 6 months now and we haven't spoken since. And honestly I don't know how to feel about it. His family keeps asking if things are okay between us because they knew we were messaging each other (but not to what extreme) and now can see we are not. What should I do? Tell his family what went down or just try and ignore it?" So basically, he bit-by-bit-by-bit turned things from sincere, earnest and heartfelt to ("How did I get HERE?!") tacky and thereby manoevred you into the position of his own, personal, sex-chat line. But without the enormous fee - or any fee...completely free-of-charge. And that obviously wasn't what you signed up for because you're not normally the type to sext. Does that sum it up? And am I right that he also manoevred you into being the one to suggest you move to be nearer to him because he had subtly encouraged you to OR EQUALLY had failed to stop you? Answer my questions for me and then we'll be able to work out whether you have the freedom and means for physical protection to risk exposing the real him to his family.