Thinking of cutting family off, am I being selfish or right?

Hi all. What's brought me to this forum is the desire to seek 3rd party advice / opinions on my predicament. In my Immediate family there is my dad, sister, nephew and myself. I'm 33, sister is 44 and nephew 25. Over the last several years I've grown tired and angry at my sisters and nephews lifestyles. My sister is drama orientated, an alcoholic and general emotional mess and I've tried supporting for years but to no avail. My nephew has done time in prison and recently come out and reverted to a similar lifestyle he occupied before prison. Both of them take and take and lie and cheat to get support/ money. My issues more so are with my sister but my nephew is a byproduct in this. My sister and nephew have taken 1000s of pounds over the years off my dad for various reasons where he's bailed them out of rent issues, shopping, drug dealer threats and all manner of things and I am the sounding board for my dad which I'm sick off but he won't stop complaining to me let alone do anything to change. My sister isn't changing either and I really can't stand to be with her or near her as there's so much drama and self pity but no attempt to improve anywhere. Obviously there's a lot more to the dynamic and family strain and I have done my bit mentally, financially and physically to try to help which feels very 1 sided. For a while now I've contemplated ending our family relationship and walking away but do think sometimes that I'm being to judgemental and unfair but in the same breathe I think I deserve to not have the impact of my family members on my life anymore and the stress and guilt I'm made to feel. From reading the snap of this dynamic, any advice? Guidance? Direction? Thanks in advance

Your sister, being an alcoholic has her own issues which are hers to sort as you can't help her no matter what you say or do. She has to hit the very bottom & find the spine to get up again but you don't have to hang around to watch it. & your nephew? well if he isn't going to learn the easy way then he'll learn the other way & if he's done a bit of time & hasn't seen the light, then it's best to let him find his own way & in his own time alone. There's only so much one can do but if your Dad stops the support then the proverbial will quite likely hit the fan. You can say what you want to your Da & he's needs to be told, but I'm pretty sure that if you do walk away, then he'll know why. Your Dad needs to understand that it's his actions which are enabling the other two; as you mentioned he's bailing them out; & that the affect of it all is dragging you down simply because you're family & you feel that you should support them. Yeah sure, he may be doing it 'to keep the peace' but imo, it's still not the done thing to do. You can't afford to let it drag you down, otherwise it could end up consuming you. Take your thoughts further & understand that you don't have to lead your life solely just to keep others happy..it doesn't work that way. It won't be easy to distance yourself from the dramas but you don't need the anger or the many other negative aspects of the whole situation. So if you've had enough then you don't have to be there for people who don't or can't respect you or your efforts regardless of who they are. Good Luck & Merry Xmas.

Much appreciated and makes great sense. Thankyou.