Life has been destroyed need help!!!!!

Okay I know this is a lot, but once I explain you'll see why I am seeking advice. So, my fiancé and I currently live in Salem, Oregon. We were brought here by someone who was considered a friend at the time. Let me say my fiancé had a work accident and destroyed his back and has stenosis in his neck so he can't work. Yes, we are currently working on applying for disability but it's a long and grueling process. Now to better explain my issue. I left an extremely abusive marriage with my three children. Now my ex-husband was not a good person so i don't currently have a social security card, birth certificate, or an ID. I literally am going today to try and get an ID again. Since I have not had these things, it has been impossible to get work without these documents and it has been a fight to get them. Upon the original offer of bringing us here my fiancé was told he could come here to rest and heal from his injuries. I was told she was going to get me a job with someone that she knew working for a great company she was buying a car and would help us get into our own place. She received an inheritance after her dad died and said that was calling her to help other people with the blessing she was given. She didn't have adequate space to accommodate all five of us. So, my children had to stay with my aunt and my brother out of state until we had a home for them here. Ten days into the arrival of showing up here she was hounding my fiancé about how she wanted him to get up and do the housework and help fix the house so she could sell it. He cannot do things like this because of his back, she knew that before we ever arrived. She wouldn't let off of this issue, so he did what he was not supposed to be and was doing chores and packing like she demanded. I was not here at the time and he ended up in the backyard on the ground unable to move walk or stand. He didn't have his phone so he couldn't even call anyone. She saw through the back door that he was out there and that he was down. She looked and walked away did not offer help, did not call anyone, she did nothing. Her daughter came home from school and called the ambulance about 4 hours later. I was not informed until he was already at the hospital. She has since tried to split us up and told my fiancé that if he didn't break off our engagement and get into a relationship with her she would make sure to take us both down. I have video evidence of her punching herself in the face to the point of having bruises and tried telling people that my fiancé was violent. I have hours of recorded conversations where she admits to purposely lying and purposely making things bad for us because she can. She told us three days before the bills were due, she no longer was helping at all, and all of our stuff is in the storage unit she was voluntarily paying for. One of the main things is his mother's urn and a few memorial items from his mother and grandmother passing. We now have no way of getting that back. She now is saying we are kicked out and she doesn't want us here. However, our car is broken down we have nowhere to take our stuff because of the storage being past due, nowhere to go, no method of transportation. Yet she wants us out so bad however she is in no way helping us to do that in any way. She is a narcissist, and she is evil. She brought us here in May 2024, I have been stuck here since with no help from anywhere and still have not made it home to see my babies. Before the shit talking starts, I've done over 100 job interviews. I have tons of our stuff online for sale to try and make money so there's no lack of effort. I literally have no idea where to go or how to even start getting anything going to get us out of here. I am entirely lost, and any genuine advice would be more than appreciated.

Hi MonkeyLaLaMonroe (haha!...I'll call you Monroe), "She is a narcissist, and she is evil." A Malignant. Damn right. She might even be a low-functioning, malignant Psychopath (you get good, healthy ones too - unlike narcs (whom aren't born like it, but 'man-made/home-reared')) going by how Machievellian, empathy-less - worse: sadistic! - coldly heartless to point of total disinterest (his need of an ambulance) and wholly fake yet (obviously) charming/persuasive, etc., she is (including 'big'), married to the fact that female psychopaths go exclusively for other women (to destroy them so as to help themselves to whatever of theirs they want). But a lower functioning one. That or, a Narc-Sociopath who reckons herself an outright psycho and thinks she can swing it, just because she now has a big gun (the money) to wave around. Usually, Narc-Psychopaths don't TELL you what they're up to, that blatently. Like Great White's - you don't see them coming and don't even realise you've lost a leg until after they've swum away again. You do get very fast evidence of what someone is when you give them power over you. And you guys gave her WAY too much. Because you were understandably too desperate to be sensible so threw caution to the wind (which didn't even feel windy). She must have been extremely persuasive...a virtuoso actress regardless of the fraught state you were in at the time. Let's tell it like it is and really think about it: She's literally been behaving like she's kidnapped the pair of you (by luring you into her van) and is now demanding a ransom - but from you, the kidnap victims. She probably WOULD throw you both out, but usually with them, the first time it's made, it's just a convincing threat. Because they fully expect you to fold and do all of their bidding. But anyway - I'm sure you'll have searched and investigated her on the web, since you know she's one type of Malignant Narcissist. Let's leave that for now and just come up with with ideas of how to deal with this. I have waiting long-haul thread-owners to respond to first but, later today or tonight I'll be able to continue. In the meantime, perhaps other posters/thread-owners can chip in? If not - I'm sure I can come up with a practical plan for you (plus a counter-plan re the psychological despotism-play to ensure you have a back-up option) so that you're no longer in a situation where you're damned in certain ways if you do and damned in others if you don't (so to speak). PS: Doesn't she KNOW that your fiance has Herpes? Didn't you tell her? Was that because you were both too embarrassed? (Get me? ;)) And other things 'n stuff. You're nowhere NEAR powerless; it's all psychological. But let's focus first on the practicals and just throw that counter-manipulation in as we go.) Narcissist and/or Sociopath and/or Psycho - keeping it simple for now: she's a bloody raving monster loony, is what she is. Someone should introduce her to Kim Yong Un, they'd get on like a house on fire for five minutes before poisoning each other's cocoa.

Tsk!... "Like Great White's"? WHITES, no apostrophy! (For the kids at home)

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So what can we do to get to our things and get away from here im lost???

Hi again - be with you very soon - bear with!

Okay thank you I’ll be watching the chat

Hey again, Monroe. I apologise profusely that my attendance is so sporadic at the mo., but on top of everything that's going on lately in mine and my social circle, I'm fighting bugs all over the shop this Winter...got Long Covid and the uncharacteristically cold weather lately (I'm in Spain) is triggering it...Roll on flippin' Spring... But anyway, the first route to try is the orthodox civil ones, and if none of those work or aren't feasible/practicable, we explore all the other avenues. I.e. Counter-Manipulation is for when there are no other options. Have you and your boyfriend tried your local police yet, for either assistance or advice - since this is a prime example of (Narcissistic) Domestic Fraud and Abuse, following outright entrapment? You have that (wonderful!) evidence so...? Also, did your boyfriend confide in any of the medical staff as to how his re-injury had come about? Furthermore, have you or he had a chance to make friends with any locals or neighbours? Have you got in touch with your nearest Domestic Abuse services or charities? Do you have contact numbers/know of the addresses of any of her family or relatives? What's her backstory (, reading between the lines and lies)? How long have you known her, how did you meet - all of that. What about your own family, aside from Aunt and brother? (And why does he live with your Auntie?) What do they all say? I just need to get a good grip on your whole situation and set-up so - tell me as much as you can and be as lengthy as you like. RsVP.