I got kicked out and I'm due in 10 weeks.

I'm 15 and pregnant. One of my best friends is the dad. He's 16. We've never dated, but we had sex a couple of times and he ended up getting me pregnant. We're still super close and he's really supportive. He comes to all of my appointments and cries with me and is just all around a super sweet boy. My parents have known about the pregnancy for around five months. They've been super mad the whole time, but have at least allowed me to stay at home and paid for the medical bills, until now. The dad and I had a little party at his house where we told our friends the gender and name we picked (It's a boy, and we're naming him Ezra Dean!), and I posted it on my Instagram story. My parents saw it and when I got home they said that if I was going to flaunt my "sexcapades" I wasn't allowed to live there. They at least let me pack a bag, and the dad picked me up. His parents are letting me stay with him and they said I can stay as long as I need. I'm at a loss. My best friend said I can stay with him if I need, so I have two options: -Stay with my best friend and his mom, where I spend so much time there I have my own section in his closet -Stay with the dad and his family, where I'll have a lot of support, but I'm less comfortable. I don't know what to do. Please give me advice on literally anything I mentioned. I really appreciate it. I'm 30 weeks pregnant right now. Ask questions if I wasn't clear.

Hi HardRain, Don't panic - I or someone else here will respond to you as soon as humanly possible! It's only a case of By When, not If. Meanwhile - for the sake of the babby: force yawns until the real thing 'takes over', it'll ease the pressure on your diaphram and lessen/remove your anxiousness. This has certainly brought out a side of your parents that is less than ...well, parent-like, hasn't it. Thank god for your diamond boyfriend and his diamond chefs. ((((((Parental Hug)))))

(FY Everyone's I: I'll be logging-on and posting in fits 'n starts from hereon into the evening and will hopefully get all caught-up, otherwise, I'll continue tomorrow/Friday evening, "no wozzies".) Hey again, Rain (- ok if I call you that?), First question I want to ask you is, re this: "The dad and I had a little party at his house where we told our friends the gender and name we picked (It's a boy, and we're naming him Ezra Dean!), and I posted it on my Instagram story. My parents saw it and when I got home they said that if I was going to flaunt my "sexcapades" I wasn't allowed to live there. They at least let me pack a bag, and the dad picked me up. His parents are letting me stay with him and they said I can stay as long as I need." How come your parents weren't invited? How come your parents weren't pre-informed, even (if it was your pals only)? Have your parents known to be too easily 'stung' over what normals would consider petty and trivial things? And egotistical? Do you suppose they (good grief) weren't comfortable admitting they were hurt at the two-sided exclusion, and used 'flaunting your sexcapades' (HAHAHAHAHAHA! Melodrama/Over-Over-Exaggeration Alert or what!) as their cover story? I mean, they seemed fine BEFORE the gender party, didn't they. And do you suppose what hurt even more (which normals WOULD find painful), was that you didn't involve them in coming-up with their imminent grandbaby's name? ...And that, posssibly, they'd been looking forward to that bit?....and maybe took that as a bad sign, that you'd be denying them grandparently rights or something? They've majorly over-reacted, that's not up for debate. But I'm just wondering what set them off. (I mean, presumably everyone in your "real life" social circles, and thereby theirs-by-association on FB knew you were pregnant?) Does the potential explanation I've provided, fit?

ALSO, when they were telling you that you were 'kicked-out' - were they ignorant at the time about the offer from your bestie/co-parent/quais brother(/whatever - he clearly loves you to bits, is the point)'s parents, and had banked on you falling to your knees and begging to be let stay?...and instead you 'did a Cartman'?

As to the practical stuff: "I'm at a loss...I have two options: -Stay with my best friend and his mom, where I spend so much time there I have my own section in his closet" Yes. "-Stay with the dad and his family, where I'll have a lot of support, but I'm less comfortable." NO, THEN. What are your fears or reservations about choosing Bfdad2b and his Mum? (HAHA, they presumably don't make you sleep in his closest? :D) WHO SAYS YOU CAN'T HAVE BOTH? Oh...haven't WE been surviving for too long on crumbs! (- Yeah, I got it....) "I don't know what to do. Please give me advice on literally anything I mentioned. I really appreciate it. I'm 30 weeks pregnant right now. Ask questions if I wasn't clear." BOTH. Listen, you've got the best of both worlds. Your choice in fact is between where you TRY OUT A DRY RUN/SAMPLE of where spend your nights and where you spend your days.... or do half-and-half-week...or week-on-week off.... or like a custody kid - weekends with the BEST-best friend (for fun) and the week with dad+gran2b. Or ANY proportion you like. From THEIR OWN point of view: The offering is one thing but it can quickly get wearing with a non-stop guest, no matter HOW much you love them. This way, both parties AND yourself will get regular, very therapeutic breaks so that everything stays sweet. Does that sort of structuring sound like a plan, Stan(etta)?

PS: what with my having pointed out, your choice NOT being as Black & White (Either-Or) as you and the two hopeful parties are assuming - Me, I would do the by-whatever-proportion(-with-willingness-to-be-flexible) "Time-Share" (- well, you ARE a hot property, are you not? ;)). That's because if *your mum's for howeverlong 'out', then BBF's mum will (you betcha!) become a quasi-granny (...psst!...I mean, what grown woman who wasn't still broody would make that huge an offer if she weren't gaga for babies? Only child, is he? Wants a quasi daughter, does she?) (There's lots going on in here, isn't there, eh? LOL) And then you'd still have the two sets of grandparents (AND one uncle - best-best-friend/non-dad). But, then, I'm like Freddie Mercury crossed with L'Oreal. I wannit all. And I wannit now. Because I'm wuuuuurth it! So are you, my luv.

Lastly but not leastly just for now: CON-GRAT-U-LATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :))))))))))))))))))))))))) (Party-poppers, Champagne (for everyone but you, tsk-aww), Fireworks, Naughty Cake...er - oh, yeah - Pressies!) I just know you're going to continue making Lemonade out of this so-called Lemon. (Haha - Lemonscapade)

Wait - forgot my Asterisk... You CAN just leave your mum/parents to calm down and smell the coffee, if you want. Because...*One look at that gorgeous, innocent, helpless, tiny-weeny little person and your Mum will melt. (If she doesn't, I'll fall of my chair!) And then you'll have THREE families for babbie! (Have it all AND have Seconds/a Spare - hurrahhhh!)

My advice would be you stay where you are most comfortable at this stage to stay with. Later on as the baby comes you and the father of the baby will make arrangements so that he will be involved. I have stayed over at in-laws and I know the feeling of not feeling as if you can relax as much no matter how nice they are. I think your parents reaction had to do with it going public and that they are ashamed that you are this young and pregnant and not in a relationship with the father of the baby, but these are issues that you should not be punished for, but you are. And so is the baby in your tummy. What I think is damaging in all this is that they actually put their own selfish reasons before the concern of you and their grandchild. You could be so stressed out about this that you can go into prelabor. How the mother is doing impacts the baby in the tummy. Not exactly good parenting. You won't always be 16 and be in this situation. I would make sure I would not need them for anything in the future. This is a form of control of you, the family, for the family, them to look perfect. I know of a family that is like that and it is damaging to the rest but the parents do not see that or do not care because it is so important to them. It's about them, their vulnerabilities, their fears, and then they go into rage or strict ways. It is important you forgive them in your head and heart for your own sake, you do not need to be in contact with them, or chose to because of that. Just know that this is about them and they stepped over their boundaries. Good luck with the pregnancy. I hope all goes well:)

I'm having trouble filing this one away. I mean - talk about parent-less, but worse, even, than that. HOW?......I mean - HOW!...do you throw out your 'baby' AND your grand-baby?!?! I just can't imagine being that selfish, self-obsessed, superficial, disloyal...........that mentally unsound/upside-down. Rain? You want ANY advice, tips/tricks on parenting, or pep-talks, bit of company, or later down the line to have a vent about someone you've quarreled with...ANYTHING? You can come here and ask me or anyone here. This is now your private diary (if you like that idea). Okay, sweetheart? PS: I'm a Night-Owl, too, which will come in handy come the nighttime feeds but where only babby's had no problem going back to sleep. (I'll bore you back, haha.) ...unless you have friends in Australia and Japan, of course; then you'll be fine. Open Offer. :)

Hi Ahardrain, I apologize for not responding here yet. I think I had actually read this and had it open several days ago, and I'd thought maybe this was one of the topics I had given feedback on, but I was wrong. I'm sorry for your situation with your family, but it sounds like you have two other great options with your friend and the dad. I wonder which one you chose? Do you think you and the dad will date now that you're having Ezra together? At the very least, it sounds like the two of you will be on great terms with one another. I understand it must be rough having a child so young, but you and the people in your life are doing a good job of getting you prepared for it. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and feel free to drop in and chat with us anytime if you need further advice or just want to talk about things.