What should be my next step in my worklife

This is my first time being on this site. A little bit of background information might be of some help. I worked for child protective services for 2 and a half years before I left due to bullying and degradation in the work place by my supervisor. I know this happens everywhere but it became too much. So two coworkers had left and went to a group home we worked with. I trusted and loved these two. One left and another is still a supervisor. I've been at this job for 8 months. When I think I finally found my groove and think im doing well with the kids. I get yelled at through a daily staff log by the boss but no real face to face communication. The supervisor who I thought was a great friend has just shit on me basically all day. If things are not done exactly how she would she is mad, in order to do that I would need to be a mind reader. We go by this family teaching model thing. This means that the children get negatives for bad behaviors and positives for good behaviors.If they don't have enough points to pass their day they fail giving them crackers. Obviously I come home extremely upset because it just seems like i'm completely failing and everything is my fault no matter how hard I try. I like being a county worker and being with the kids. I feel like I can't do anything right at this point so i'm wondering if I should say something? Continue to be on second shift or ask if being on third with no interaction with the kids is an option? I do know that the boss doesn't really care about people's scheduling or health, i have seen him schedule the same person on multiple shifts throughout the week. This environment isn't as bad as CPS and they group home begged me to come but I suffer from severe depression and often give up quickly. There is still drama and everyone talks shit about everyone but im not sure if im ready to just go back looking for another job.

The environment that you work in is no good for you given your depression whether it's severe or not. Yeah sure, bullying happens everywhere but it's the decent companies which have a decent HR to stamp it out. If that means removing people, no matter what their station, then so be it. Does that happen where you work? Do you have direct access to HR? At the end of the day, there's second rate companies everywhere surviving off govt grants etc with outdated modules etc & who have 'managers' up the top who employ people to their second rate standards, who in turn employ people to their second rate standards & so on until it's hit's the 'hands on' workers level...who by the way, make the money for the second rate company. No matter where you work, IF there's manure, it'll flow downhill regardless if there is a HR dept worth a damn or not. On the other side of the coin, there are professional companies who employ 'leaders' who set an example of how things need to be done. They are continually checking & tweaking the company's on going success by involving all of their staff in the process. They lead from the front with actions & encourage their staff to speak up please, no matter who they are & what their station. They reprimand in private if they have to & they congratulate in public, but always. Their pay rates are usually structured superior to others in the their respective industry. There's bugger all bullies at these companies because they don't get past the professional HR scrutineering & vetting. So if your working environment is seriously lacking & you feel you can't speak up, as is your right, then you have a choice as to whether you stay & continue to cop the bs or you take positive steps to find an employer who will respect you for your skills & strengths & for who you are. If your have a 'boss' who doesn't care, but yells to get their point across & a supervisor who disrespects you because she's under pressure herself to make things sing using the company's family teaching module, then it's time for you to step back & have a look around. Take your thoughts further & ask yourself just how far do you reckon you'll go with this mob, even after just 8 months? Of course, the decision is all yours, & we would wish you every success whatever you choose to do. Good Luck.

Thank you for your response and words of encouragement. Sometimes I feel like coming to the group was a mistake but I truly loved cps. I tried to go to HR there and it was all just brushed under the rug. Although the group home is ran by a different county they are still under Job and family services. I've been told by other co workers that people have went to JFS before to complain and the admin(boss) I refered to made their life harder. I know people who speak up have been pushed around from 1st to 2nd to 3rd shift scheduling in a week as "punishment," by this admin. What really gets me is my supervisor knows that i am dealing with a lot at home. I just feel stuck in some ways. I dont think there is room for advancement but I am just not sure what else to do..

coupler points for you to ponder.. The environment that you're working in will eventually contribute to your depression sooner rather than later. The fact that HR swept your complaints under the carpet tells you straight up that you're working for a unprofessional mob without mentioning about others being punished for daring to 'complain'. Your supervisor is not your friend as you found out the hard way & her ongoing actions tell you just where you stand with her. She's unhappy where she is so it's a look out for you about being advanced in an unhappy workplace. Once you take positive steps to find an employer who will respect you & appreciate you for what you bring to the workplace, then you will be solving the problem of not being sure of what else to do. You're wondering what to do at present in a negative situation, where your happiness & well being is being controlled by others at your workplace, who by all indications as you post, don't give a damn. They're not going anywhere, so it's up to you to make a positive decision about your own success & happiness.

(Brilliant!) Meanwhile, MessyLife96 - how to feel better enough TO get another job: While you're job-searching online (which, embarking on asap, will in fact give you back a large chunk of your sense of rightful power, control, and autonomy, rather than your present sense (no doubt!) of encarceration and helplessness), what you do is - every time the supervisor or boss is in a 'kick-the-cat' frame of mind, imagine them straining on the loo, knickers around their ankles, with terrible constipation, going, 'Gnnnnnnnnnn!...OW-HOW-HOWWWWWW'. Because that's their problem - just the psychological version. (Give her Y-Fronts and him, frilly Bloomers :p). (But don't whatever you do, laugh! :D) PS: Sounds like a Narc-Den to me - wouldn't you agree? 'Taking off the mask' as soon as the ones the supervisor DID wish to present a false persona to have left. Kicking you when you're down. And boss who needs an audience to see how big and powerful he is (not!) (not a genuine grown-up).... All of it.

PPS: Or, alternatively, buy your boss two tickets to the next Coldplay concert?

(tsk! - incarceration) PPPS: Can you secretly tape/voice-record these bullying incidents from now on?

Hi Messy. I'll just give my own personal perspective on this situation. I can relate a bit. So up until almost 6 years ago, I spent the better part of a decade working in a place I really grew to like. For these past 6 years, it's felt like a struggle to find a workplace where I feel respected by staff and bosses, alike. I can't tell you what to do for sure, since I don't even have the right answer to that yet, but only you can decide whether your job is something you can tolerate for a while, or if it's not going to work out. Working under someone you're friends with might not always be a good thing. Maybe some people can make that work. But if your friend is taking a lot of issue with your work and singling you out as a poor performer, then that's kind of crappy. If you don't feel that is true, or don't see any reasonable way your friend could say that, then they might be a little two-faced. Different counties might do things differently. Me, I've been all around my home state and things seem pretty much the same throughout it. I guess it makes a pretty big difference whether you live in a nice neighborhood or a crummy one. But for the most part, as much as I want to say location makes a difference, I don't know if it ever does. I would suggest hang in there, and maybe try going for the other shift if you think that option will work out better for you. No place is perfect, but you'll usually know if a job is tolerable enough or if you need to get out of it when you take some time to think about things and give it more time to see how it goes. Right now I'm working with coworkers who don't always give me respect or kindness. But the pros still outweigh the cons. At the end of the day, the way a lot of jobs show their gratitude is by keeping you on.

All forms of Bullying In The Workplace are NO LONGER ALLOWED. It's grounds for a successful Constructive Dismissal case. Start keeping a diary of every little bit of Not Nice-ness, all the way to Nastiness, Messy. Only a genuine victim would find that a worthwhile effort to go to (as well as therapeutic). Courts know that. (Should mention, they can tell when one is contrived as well, albeit, that's not you - just saying.)