Jealous

We, husband and I try to go abroad once a year and we do staycations when we can as well. So next year our daughter is going abroad to a country we have not been too and our son is going abroad to a country my husband has been to before he met me. I feel jealous and I know I should not because I go abroad too each year if possible. I think it’s because they have already planned it and know they are going and husband and I have no plans yet for next year. Getting jealous when I hear our kids or other people going away seems to get to me each time. It’s not like I will not go away or not been away so I don’t know why I get like this. I know I never travelled at all abroad when I was younger and maybe being middle age I have travelled more now and maybe making up for the time I never did when younger. Maybe it’s seeing my kids travelling and when I was there age I had them and was a housewife and thinking my life was raising a family at a young age instead of travelling. I never thought of travelling back then and seem to think that having kids was like the be all and end all. Our daughter has a friend who travels all over for her job. She stays in different places a few weeks or months at a time.Her friend has been abroad many times but she is single and has no ties. No kids and no fixed addressor because of her travelling. Plus she does not have to pay for her accommodation because her company pays for it. She is so lucky and what she earns each month she only has to but herself food. I know her life is totally different from mine and she only as herself to look out for. I do feel so envious of her and wished I could have had a life like that but I can only blame myself no one else. I chose to have kids young and settle young, no one forced me. The life I would loved to of had, would be to free, have fun and have no commitments and just travel as much as possible. I know one day this friend of our daughters will get older and might want to settle somewhere eventually and her life might be different from what it is now, but I wish I had her life. Does anyone or is it just me, get jealous of other people and there lives and of people who travel and see the world, and wish there life was different

To add to my post. Our daughter has gone away for 5 days on a staycation and our son is going away for 4 days for the same. Husband and me went away for a week in October on a staycation but all work holidays are used up now. We will have to wait to get away again next year. I think I’m jealous of our kids going away and their trips next year is because my husband is not very romantic. Our son is taking his girlfriend away and she did not know where they are going as he wanted to surprised her. I thought this was a nice romantic gesture and our daughter always stays in airbnb which are always lovely accommodation which her and her boyfriend pick it. I’ve said to my husband many times it would be nice if he surprised one time and took a day off which I would not know x as bout snd we could go out the day. He had never done this and it’s gone in one ear and out the other. I think his answer would be that I would say he is using up his holidays and it could go towards a proper week away instead. I have said this to him but maybe it’s just the gesture if he did do it and we done something nice but like I said he’s not very romantic

Hi Mytra - please keep bearing with us as we're low on respondents just at the mo. I or someone else WILL be with you - how soon is just the question, not 'whether' (we will).

Actually, I've got 5 mins right now... "but like I said he’s not very romantic" Yes, ...like you said, ...including in various other ways. Romance was the overriding theme, yes. Is it Romance with your husband you want (ROMANCE-romance) or THE romance of being free to be you (FREEDOM-romance) ...e.g. holidays make you feel younger, more invigorated, right? Why do you make it sound like you and he are joined at the hip, ergo - if husband can't or dunwanna, neither can you? Don't you have a married galfriend you could go with? You're at that age, that's for sure (Thelma & Louise) (not the ending haha). Since you're not quite sure about the cause (albeit it could be all of it, a whole cocktail) - I'll set you some really fun homework: This weekend, watch 'Shirley Valentine'...and don't forget your box of tissues and incontinence pants, haha! And then report back because, trust me, you'll be clear as crystal about what's up/what's mainly up after watching that. (Yup, I'm serious :) But it's the grade of film that has people watching it over and over, and never losing enjoyment...nor, sight of the lessons therein.)