My boyfriend might still love his ex

My boyfriend has only had one other ex-girlfriend. This was around 2023–2024. She cheated on him a lot, so they eventually broke up. We met in April 2025, became close instantly, and started dating on June 10. Everything was going great until January. We were spending way too much time together, which caused a lot of small fights, and I was often mad at him. I was not being the best girlfriend. By the end of January, he had started looking at his ex’s profile, and in February she texted him because she saw that he had viewed it. The conversation moved to Discord, where he told her that he and I were probably going to break up soon and that I was too controlling. They mostly talked about me. At the time, he and I were close to breaking up and a lot was going on, but I had no idea about any of this. After that conversation, they did not talk again. Around the first week of March, he and I talked through all of our problems and agreed to fix things between us. That week was going great, and then I found those messages. I felt hurt and extremely angry, so I broke up with him. We talked after the breakup, and he said that he thought he missed the feeling of not knowing whether his girlfriend would still be his girlfriend the next day. After they texted, he realized that was not what he wanted, so he blocked her. Although I love him, I would never want to be the girl he is with only because he cannot be with her. Part of me wants him to stay my boyfriend because I really do love him, but the other part of me does not think it will work. If he wants his ex, why is he dating me?

None of us can go onto another relationship unless we've sorted the last one properly & that means without looking back over our shoulder wondering what if. Your BF needs to clear his head & understand this without dragging you around with him. Don't forget, when he spoke to his ex, he spoke to her behind your back & mostly about you, which tells you everything you need to know about some of his values & standards. Your relationship may be in tatters but there's bugger all trust now whether you pushed him away or not. Your BF wants to get back with a woman who cheated on him alot, but was his first GF as well? You need to decide what you actually love about him & as you post, listen to the other part of you which reckons it will not work. Your heart is telling you one thing while your gut is warning you & your gut will stand you in good stead rather than your heart every time. Your gut is also talking to you about the times you were often mad with him regardless of who is to blame for those times. Only you can decide which way to go & you may need to walk away a bit & let things cool before you make a decision. The way you post you were his rebound, which if correct, can leave you absolutely trashed & feeling worthless if it goes pear shaped mmmm? Sure, you love the man but is it coming back to you & by the look of it, he's proved otherwise via his actions. There will be those who would wipe him in a jiffy, block him 100% & walk away completely & then there's those who would give him another chance; it all depends on whether the heart listens to the gut.