Loud talking/shouting

So my husband talks loud when just talking normally and he shouts loud when we have had an argument. He does not always do it but when he does I get embarrassed when out with him and I think he needs to get his hearing checked but he doesn’t seem to think there’s a problem. He is 59. And when we have an argument, he shouts so loud. The house we live in is attached to next door so any loud noise or loud stuff going on then they will hear it. My husband knows I hate him shouting because next door will hear him yet he still does it. We don’t talk to anyone in our street so I don’t know why I give a damn if they hear but to me it’s embarrassing knowing they can hear us. Not only that but we live on a corner of a row of houses and there is a house that is just across the way that we can see into there back garden. Now the people who live there just smoke and drink as soon as they get home from work all night long. I can see them with the back door open standing there blowing out the smoke. So any shouting from our house and they will hear it no matter what. I even have got to the point to shut our bedroom windows because I’m scared to talk to loud incase they hear us. Even thou it’s warm at night, the thought of them standing on there back door step with a ciggie listening to anything that’s going on gets me down. My husband and me don’t argue all the time, only every blue moon but I’m getting to think my husband knows I don’t like it when he shouts that he is doing it on purpose. Him Shouting because he knows I don’t want anyone to hear him. He is not bothered who hears him and tonight we had argued and he was shouting, What's the point really loud. Now anyone hearing that will think what the hell he was saying it for and even if he was very depressed. He was saying what’s the point because he felt like he could not get through to me. So do I let him shout and not give a damn who hears and let them talk about us if they want. We don’t talk to anyone around here so they know nothing of us at all or should I start shouting too and play him at his own game or do I walk out and leave him to it when he shouts. Should I not give a damn about anyone hearing him shouting and let him get on with it and don’t let it get to me? I think like I said, he knows I don’t like him shouting because of anyone hearing him, but he is doing it to wind me up and knows I don’t like it?

Yep, he knows how to get your goat by yelling at you but just don't give him the satisfaction. Always remember that your husband screaming & shouting at you is abuse, pure & simple, even if it's only once in a blue moon. What people think of you & yours is none of your business but do get your husband's hearing checked & maybe an early dementia screening as well. Rest assured that shouting back at him will achieve absolutely bugger all.