Player problems??

Ive been complety single now for 2 years.have met alot of men but nothing ever comes of it with them (including intimacy) i met a man almost 5 months ago now,he was a doorman at a club i went to and he is absolutly stunning. id probably say out of my league (even though im not really ugly ha ha) he didnt call which i expected even though he seemed really interested as he liked my innocence and wernt like alot of the girls he meets.When i started a new gym i bumped into him and it turned out i'd give him my wrong number and thats why he hadn't been in touch.so we swapped numbers and he would text me been so sweet,sayin all the right things.i'm beautiful,i want you etc. he would ask me to meet him while he was workin so he could see me for 10 mins so some-nights id go and we'd sit n the car for an hour just talking and kisisng.we'd also see each other at the gym and he started to stay longer so we could talk. i'll also go and see him when im out drinkin and go to his club later on an stand with him and chat and he'd drop me home. we'd just kiss and talk although he does try to push for more. i've told him i really like him and want him but he needs to make more of an effort.he hasnt taken me out or invited me to his house (says because of his son) he has been mine one night after he finished work but as i still live with parents its hard.his txts have calmed down these days but when i see him at the gym he seems interested still says things like 'when were together' and talks like im his girlfriend. theres been alot of issues with other girls.he would have girls turn up at his club and i'd presume he has asked them like he asked me so id leave in a mood but he'd be on the phone straight away saying its an ex who wont leave him etc. i know it sounds im been played yet everytime i pull him he has an legitimate answer. i dont like how i'm been treated but i really like him and i cant believe a man like him has been interested in me.what would be the best advice?ignore him?enjoy the flirting and intimacy i could have (even though it would be in a car it seems)?talk to him and give him an ultimatum see whats goin on?

You need to get an answer. Tell him that you won't want to fall deeper if he is just planning to be friends. And who knows, those girls might be his ex or they might not be. But for sure, you need a straight up answer. Guys these days are not easy to trust. Ignoring him won't do anything. Running away from a problem is a race you'll never win. That's why you need to get an answer. Is he playing for keeps or not? Ask him. :)