Complexity at its best

Years ago I worked with joe. At work he met and married paddi. We remained friends for years until their (and mine at the time) relationship got bad and we all lost touch. 2 years after seeing him I ran into joe and we had both spilt up but he was still legally married yet separated for over a year. Sparks flew, basically. Paddi LOST her mind over it and made several threats towards me. Normally id call the cops but she and joe were still trying to adopt the child they'd assumed guardianship of years ago. She constantly makes it a struggle for joe to see the kid and is now claiming she's gotten his guardianship revoked because of me and will file divorce for adultery (she's equally guilty) then adopt the kid by herself and deny joe any visitation. Our relationship has been AMAZING but I refuse to be the reason he loses his son. To stay or to leave? He's also torn in that hell live his entire life fighting tooth and nail to see his son, who will have to witness it. Or, he can walk away before the kid gets old enough to remember. So that complicates my decision more. Any possible good outcome?

First, let me say that you're definitely NOT the reason why he will lose his son. It's Paddi. She acts like a little kid, not letting him see his son. This woman is very immature. She even threaten you. Wow. Don't even let her get to you. You're the one with the man on your side. And obviously, she is not over him yet. That's why she acts like that. I know it must be difficult, but you have to be a strong woman and fight for your rights as well. Don't let her do all of these things to you. If you let her, she'll find more ways to get under your skin. And trust me, woman like her ALWAYS find something. So, get up and fight fight fight!