Love affair v. marriage

I knew what I was getting myself into, but then how often does it happen in a lifetime that you meet that one special person you feel you want to grow old with. She has been married for half a decade, but from the moment we met, 6 months ago, the most amazing thing happened to the both of us. The story in short: both in our early thirties, we live in separate countries on two different continents. Twice a year does she visit the country I reside in because of her family and during her last two week visit half a year ago I met her on her first day of arrival. Since then we've been in touch every single day up till today. She told me she was married after a couple days, but the damage was already done; I fell in love with her the day we met and the same happened to her. She even told me on day one we must have met for a reason and I felt it too, she was the one. Our level of communication, understanding, the same wavelength, physical attraction, passion, it was all unprecedented in both mine as her life. She married an incompatible partner for the 'wrong' reasons, to get out of another unhealthy relationship, and this was raising the devil as time passed in her marriage. However, despite our desire to be with each other she has several issues that prevent her from making choices in her life, and this is really fretting me. I believe in our love, but until she becomes available she will never be able to give me what I am willing and prepared to give her now. And my fear of her being intimate with her husband is a realistic one, as it happened before and really hurt me especially since we have been in touch every day. She fights hard to convince him that sex is not going to save their marriage, but she doesn’t want to live in one house in constant argument either knowing she is not ready yet to live on her own. She knows how I feel about it and abstains, but she cannot promise it won’t happen at all anymore. She doesn’t want to hurt him, which she is afraid of doing when she’d decide to leave him, and with her desire to please everyone her husband has her priority. Do I need to give our relationship a break until she sorts things out or relax our contact more? Am I risking what we have when she will take a year or even more to sort things out? I could never forget her as being my perfect match for the rest of my life, and I truly wish this doom scenario will not happen. I feel something must change, but caught in my love I don’t know what I can do. She regrets this situation, and realizes it is selfish for her to maintain an extra marital relationship with me, yet just like me the forces driving us together are too powerful. She is financially dependent on him, but she doesn’t want to accept my help for understandable reasons. However, with this criterion a divorce will not be imminent. I’ll see her in a couple weeks’ time again and after half a year we have both really been looking forward to this moment. It will be a dream period, until reality kicks back in again. To live in insecurity, and have nothing to look forward to yet, is tiring and I catch myself worrying more every day, especially with her approaching visit and inevitable departure. I love our conversations, our laughs, our attraction towards each other, our mutual understanding, our arguments, our make ups, our intimacy, and I wish we wouldn’t have to hide ourselves anymore. It’s all in her hands, but is there anything I can do to at least alleviate the pain our love is causing me in those lonely moments when my mind starts carrying me away?

If it hurts you, it's probably not meant to be. When you love someone you'd walk through hot coals barefoot to get to them. She doesn't seem willing to do this for you....