Misunderstandings....!!!

I met a guy online. We instantly hit along and soon became really good friends. We used to chat all most throughout the day. As we got into our respective colleges..where he had to stay in a hostel and i was staying at home. Soon we started dating and loved each other a lot.But gradually he started texting less. He said he was living in a hostel. He had work and could not talk to me the whole day. I never wanted him to talk to me the whole day but i used to find that he used to spend a very little time with me. He would say he was busy playing FIFA. He would disappear for long hours and i was the one who used to text only. I would sometimes get mad at him for not texting me and it would end up in minor fights. Here was i..who was always ready to talk to him no matter how busy i was. I loved talking to him and i missed him like hell when he used to disappear for long hours. I really cared about him and tried my best to share all his problems and stand by his side. On the other hand..he used to feel that i texted him all the time ( i texted usually after an interval of about four hours or so). One day he said he had started losing the feelings he had for me just because i "choked" him by texting him a lot. I promised i would not do so. But he was adamant. He said he needed time to figure out. For two days i was waiting. The thought of losing him was killing me. I was worried and stressed out...was feeling painful somehow at how could he just lose feelings for me...just because i gave him all my attention..gave him so much of love and affection. After two days he said he wanted us to be friends again. I called him several times to sort it out but he refused to receive my calls and threatened to block me. He pushed me to the limit where i lost my patience and cursed him. He blocked me and turned against me. I apologized but he said i was pretending and asked me to fuck off. He started dating someone else soon after our breakup and i came to know this a week later. Do you think i am to be blamed for this? Did i really "choke" him? Did it really lead him to lose those feelings he had for me? Is it so easy to lose feelings for someone you really love just because u think that person choked you?

Hi you, I came accross your message and I can tell you something basic. Everybody loves his or her self determination. This means freedom of choice. Though you both seemed very in love with eachother, one of you could maybe felt a bit... yes chocked. The only solution to such a situation is to give, in this case your lover, space. You will lose more friendsships if you really enforce it, eventhough your intentions are good. Let it go and move on with your life.... JM