Family and business problems

I'm a bit troubled. I do not know what to do. See... I work for my older brother, who is a fairly successful man. He got a few properties, and what it seem a comfortable life. I am a much simpler person, humble, happy, very easy going, and calm. The problem is... my brother (my boss) is the complete opposite. He's very impatient, angry most of the time, has a very explosive personality (bursts of anger if things don't go well... or his way) a micromanager in every possible way. I'm not going to lie, I am so damned miserable. I feel he doesn't trust me, sometimes he treats me like a god damned idiot. He managed to turn something I liked (technology), to something I now absolutely hate. Sometimes I feel like telling him to fuck off, and quit. But I have a baby on the way (wife is pregnant). No matter how hard a try, every day that goes by there is something wrong with what I do, even the itty-bitty details that dont even have to do with the business. I want to start my own business so bad. To work for myself, do think my way, it always has been my dream (for many years) to do that. But now that my wife is pregnant, I don't see that happening.I don't know... I have never felt so much pressure, tension, stress in my entire life. Working for complete strangers seem better than to work for my brother. Shit, I need some advise. I am dying to work on my own (have a business) but it now seems for far fetched... help!!

Hi! Seems like you are 2 different types. You are a calm person and your brother seems more a go getter. If I was you I would sit down and take a piece of paper and write down why my brother might be angry at me. Be him for a moment and see for example how busy he is or what problems he might have. Take a look at your whole life with him. Write everything down. Then if you really got the picture make an appointment and have a good talk! Communication is the solution. Tell also your worries regarding your family. Also give him a chance to talk and you will be suprised what is really on his mind! Good luck and wish you soon a great family in harmony! Ps I just bumped in this website and I love to give some tips and advice...

Thanks for the reply Jolanda, Yea, now that I think of it, it might bother him that I'm so calm about everything. Heck, I think it might bother him the way I am. Sometimes he even gets annoyed/angry at the way I talk to customers (I've been in the customer service industry for many years) I tend to think things through before jumping in into anything (analyzing possible problems and solutions) but that sorta bothers him as well. Like I said, hes very impatient, and sometimes downright rude. I just don't find any reason why he reacts the way he does, I think it adds unnecessary/unwanted stress (on both) and it becomes part of the problem, not a solution. I've made changes on my personality, to try to adjust, and be a little more like him. But thinking about it, and the way he is with people and family, I don't want to be like that, especially if he's not willing to change himself, so why should I? throughout my life I've been stepped on, and belittled, I've had many nasty experiences, but I've done nothing because of the need to support my family. I'm in a point on my life that I'm not taking it any longer. It saddens me its my own family, but I have dignity, and I know that I can do much better on my own. Be much happier for me and my family... I'm a confused mess.

Yes I understand and ofcourse you have the power of choice to be like you are and you don't have to change yourself.... Why not just checking for another job and from there on going step by step working for yourself?

Yea, all of this actually inspired me to work on my own. I'm in the process of getting my first investment, so hopefully I'll be running the business sooner rather than later.

I am very happy to hear that and I wish you a good creation with your business! In case you want to be in contact with me you always welcome to Google or FB me at Lifestyle Coach Jolanda!!