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Confused about my girlfriend? :-/

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Ok im male thats fallen head over heels for this girl shes amazing beautiful cant find one fault with her we have been dating for a month now never gone to the bedroom but always kissed nd cuddled up together now heres my predicament she opened up to me today she was in tears before she told me it turns out shes actually a pre op male to female it all clicked into place she. Never told me why she could never spend a night with me but now I know. Im not gay I dnt like men it actually disgusted me to think or see to blokes together! Bt now im here thinking am I gay? Bt the thought repulsed me bt I fallen in love with a guy turning to a girl! Am I disgustin g? Wat have I done im 19 which now I have no idea what to do she was in tears nd I said I love you we will talk about this tomorrow and she said I love you too nd thats fair enough. ........ Someone please please help

Confused about my girlfriend? :-/

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You are not gay! Stop thinking that. You had no idea that this girl is not really a girl so do not blame yourself. It has only been a month so you are not "in love" you are infatuated and their is a big big difference. You need to really think about what you want. Ask her for some space and take some time to just figure out whether you can handle this situation or not. Can you sleep with a woman who you know used to be a man (after she gets the op)? Or will that make you feel bad? Can you handle the fact that if you really do fall for this girl and want to marry her one day, she can never give you children? Are you prepared for the shock of your family and friends? The gossip? etc I know that is not important but it would be very very hard for you to deal with that on top of everything else. A month is not a long time to be with someone and you can walk away. You do not owe her anything. I know that sounds very harsh but if you stay with her you will have to change who you are also. You will have to change everything you ever believed in for this girl. Now if you think she is worth it and if you think you will both be happy together without this affecting either of you-then stay but once that infatuation wears off and reality smacks you in the face and you realize that she is not "perfect" (nobody is)-you might just want to run a mile.

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