Husbands & respect

My husband and I have been through alot of problems throughout our relationship and I feel like I need to demand more respect and consideration from him. I've tried discuss going to counseling but he is already being treated for PTSD from military career. What should I do if I'm not happy and want things to change and get better? Please don't say leave him it's not an option for me.

If you feel that you need to demand more respect and consideration, do it. Always follow those nagging feelings that shrivel to negative feelings. They indicate something is wrong, and indicate an appropriate want of resolution. A marriage requires equal energy for both partner's issues, not one. It sounds the scales are unbalanced, and seeing as you are the empty side, you need to demand what you need, or you will forever be unbalanced and no issue will be resolved. Communication is essential. Even if it is initially uncomfortable, eventually he will see your side if he really loves you. I truly hope everything works out:)

Hyacinth, first of all that you for your response and help. However I need some tips on how to demand respect from someone. You see I don't carry the full financial support so how do I put myself in the position to demand respect??

There weren't specifics listed so I'm not exactly sure how he is not giving you respect. You should sit him down or ask him to set up a time where you can talk. He's your husband, he should be open to it or it's a lost cause. Just tell him that you feel emotionally exhausted because you have been giving so much that you are now empty because nothing is being returned. Tell him in order to help him, he has to help you. Make sure you tell him you love him and won't even consider leaving him, but the need for consideration is essential. With him being an ex military, make sure you come across as firm and serious, he should relate with it. Just tell him your needs without sounding needy...if that makes sense. Like I said, I obviously don't know him but think about people he respects and kind of take on those traits when demanding what you need from him. :)