Possible narcisistic behavior disorder

My father died in a different state and due to the fact he had lived most of his life in the state I reside in, I chose to place a rather small obituary in the local paper. This obituary was in addition to the lengthy obituary ran in the local paper where my father resided. My little brother called me informing me in a most rude and shoutful manner that I left out his wife's name and their children's names and the town of their residence. I explained that I left out all spouses as well as children because I was trying to hold down the cost. He got incredibly ugly telling me his wife was balling her eyes out and that if I ever wanted any chance of having a relationship with him that I had better find a way to make this up to his wife. He continued to text me throughout the entire night getting uglier and uglier with his behavior. He brought up that he only married once, unlike all of his siblings, and that he has been married for 26 years. Now he won't even talk to me. It's been bad enough that we lost our father, but now, I feel as if I've lost my brother, too. As it turned out, my brother's wife didn't even attend the funeral. I just wonder if these are clear signs of narcisistic behavior disorder.

Sorry for your loss. I'm not a doctor but he sounds like his hurt is partly from your omission of names concerned and losing his father redirected toward you. His wife is hurt too and sounds like it fuels him. I'm sure you weren't intending to hurt them at all. It's a trying time for you too. You've apologized. You can't change it now but you can be open to listen when he unloads his feeling on you later. I wouldn't think he has NBD if these things haven't surfaced before this incident. I hope he comes around soon.

I m really sorry to hear about ur dad,hope he Rests in Peace. as far as your brother's behavious is concerned,its clear that he's hurt because the name of his spouse wasnt there though she has been in the family for quite a long time.Somewhere he is just being a little possesive abt his wife's position in the family. U have given ur reasons to him,and its right too.I just hope he gets over this bro-u-hurted-me kidsy behaviour! go around,plan some surprise outin with the whole family. Its time when all u siblings should try to be together and pray for ur Dad's soul,atleast for his sake! do luck!