Starting over again?

It's kind of complicated...I am married with three children all almost out of high school. Just when I was looking forward to a little more freedom, we get my husband's now 6 year old nephew to help raise. He stays with my sister-in-law during the week and comes to my house on the weekends. My husband always says yes he can come but then he works 7 days a week so he is not really there. My mother-in-law passed away 4 years ago so my husband thinks he is "doing what his mother would want him to do". We have no idea where the child's mother is and his father, my brother-in-law is incarcerated at the moment. Having a six year old around on the weekends requires a lot of juggling because someone always has to be around to meet his needs. My sister-in-law only has one child and he is pretty much grown, as a matter of fact he has a two year old daughter. I don't mind helping out but not every single weekend, I had my children at the age that I did because I wanted to grow with them and now I don't want to start over.

I can see how you suddenly feel put upon. You could say to his sister in law that you are finding it a hard arrangement to have him every weekend and ask her about having him on the odd weekend or when she needs someone to look after him. And if you cant do that then maybe see if theres any clubs that he would like to go too when you cant have him. Hope this helps.