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I am 30 years old. I got married 2 years ago. I love my husband a lot. We are very happy as a couple. He is kind, caring, helps around the house and we do all chores together. He is also supportive with my busy career. He is great with my parents and my extended family. His parents and family are also good with me and my family. We have a lot of fun and spend a lot of time together. To put it simply we are both madly in love with each other. Well this sounds perfect and you must be worndring why I am even posting here. Here is the situation. The only thing that bothers me is that he teases me a lot! Its modt about my body - about my belly (i have a small lower belly flab), about my skin (prior stretch marks), my arms (not the most toned arms i the world). This comes more or less daily. At other times he complemets me sout my face or my personality or my about me curves that he likes. But then always follows with the teasing. This really hurts my feelings and really stomps down on my self esteem. For example, recently I wore a sleeveless top and immediately he kissed me "you look cute but look at those grandma arms!" Another time I was wearing a dress and asked him how I looked and he said "well those legs are not much to look at." He appologizes when I tell him. But it soon happens again with something else. By the way I am 5'8" with a bmi of 23 and before this, I used to be happy with my body. But now I am gradually lossing my self confidence snd self esteem. At times I also feel hesitant to get in my birthday suit in front of him. I have had an honest chat about this with him before and told him how much it hurts my feelings but he told me that it is not meant to be like criticism but it is just a way he shows his love - by teasing me! I have kinda seen him do the same to his brother and parents and they tease him back. So it could be the way he grew up and what he is used to. I have tried to tease him back about things but he does not seem to care like I do. I feel like if I keep complaining aut it to him again and again then he will become upset and that it might bring distance in our relationship. Like I said - our relationship is otherwise perfect. I really do know that he love me. he does complement me in many other ways. He does say that I am beautiful and cute and smart. I make my own money and we are both financially independent. This is the only issue. Am I just being too sensitive? Do I need to lighten up?

Mixed feelings

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i had the same issue wit my ex I use to tease her once in a while and he would hold it against me all the time I stopped doin it but she always reminded me tht I said it to her I honestly think ur a lil to sensitive bout it if he only did it to u thn yeah he would have to completely stop but u c he does it to his family and they do it so he does it in a playful manner in glad u have a great relationship keep it tht way don't make an issue out of nothing honestly if u don't put mind to it he might stop it whn I did it I didn't mean any harm or try to put her down I did it twice mayb and never did it again cause we had arguments bout it but she kept on mentioning it and it became problem cause thn the thought of is he attracted to me does he see me the same way in time it will happen cause u put so much thought into it thn ur insecurities will pop up cause of low self esteem not sayin it will happen to u but it happened to me I'm not sayin it's right for him to continuously do it but try not to put mind to it to c if he stops just tryin to help from my experience

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