Why does it happen with me??

i am 23 yrs old single child of my parents and finished my graduation.i loved a guy intensely 3 years back..we were at college.after about 5 months of our committed relation, he dumped me silently without giving me any reason.in those days he was getting frustrated as he was not getting a job.i waited fr him for months to find out one day that he got a job already,yet he did not turn up.months passed and during this period one of my friends used to be in regular touch with me.he proposed me.but i turned it down for the fact that i wanted to wait for my ex.now,i stopped talking to this guy but discovered that i have started felling for him and also realised that my ex would never cm back..hence i got into this new relation which i am still in....after months of relation,my bf behaved hell possessively at times,and in fit of anger,started torturing me mentally(he's long distant so cant be physically harsh)..abusing me verbally,saying that people tell him "i have been physical with many guys"(utter rubbish).he claims some of his secret sources told him.he gets irritated when i talk to any guy even for a genuine cause.i cant party in a group that has some boys even ifthere are girls ,no calls or msgs and many more restrictions i have put on myself..all just to maintain peace.yet he accuses me of being cheat fake fraud s**t etc.the problem is though i want to get out of this life,i am finding it hard to...have i got addicated to him or smthing??smtimes i am evn scared to live freely wondering how he'll react.we have met twice in 2 yrs only.havent committed him of marriage coz i knw that would be idiotic for such an unstable relation.my life has become a living hell..........please help what to do and how!

Dump him - Now!! He sounds like a psycho, and is clearly making your life unenjoyable. You deserve better. Both of these men don't deserve you at all. I hope you find someone better, or even just enjoy life being free and single with friends until you are really sure you have found a guy that is going to treat you right.

i think i understand how you feel. I am in a relationship similar to yours, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years but now i moved 1 1/2 hours away for school and he has completetly turned into another person. He doesn't want me to talk to guys even if it is for school related topics, i cant go out even for a girls night out, he keeps accusing me of cheating even though i would never cheat, he calls me a s**t. He broke up with me last month but I begged him to come back to me which he did (our break up lasted 5 min, pathetic, i know) I feel scared to leave him because he is all i have known for the past 5 years, he was my first true love and ever since i left for college he has become a monster. my advice to you would be to leave him, you deserve someone who will let you live your life and not try to change or control you, but of course i know this is easier said than done because even if someone gave me that same advice, i wouldnt be able to follow through with it. good luck and i hope everything works out for you

well.. you see..i finished my college and also jobless because i plan to do further studies(june 2013 onwards).this has led me to spend almost a year sitting at home,so no work and no friends i have right now.moreover all my college/school friends have moved to different cities.so,in short for almost a year now..i don't have a social or a professional life. it's easy to say i can sit and do so many things at home,but sitting in home all the time is hell boring,no matter whatever you do,it bores you to death.it's even worse for me because i have lived in a hostel for 4 years..and habituated to that. swimming classes,clubs etc are hell expensive in the place where i live,so dad wouldn't allow me. all these reasons are making it even more difficult for me to "move on"...i don't have anything to make myself involve in!! i have no siblings either and my cousins live far off and since my cousins and old friends are hell busy,so even telephone calls and facebook don't help. :-(