Waiting for his divorce...

Hi there. I've been dating a man for 3 years, who is still married however separated. I am divorce with three children and my new partner loves them to pieces - and they love him too. The problem is, my partners wife is taking a very long time to write her affidavit so they can lodge the divorce together. He wont lodge the divorce papers without her because she is mentally unstable and if he initiates anything 'behind her back', anything is possible. I know he wants to do things the right way for all involved, however the ex wife is ultimately holding up our life and we can't get married until this happens. The other things I'm having a real hard time dealing with is he still lives with her under the same roof. They don't have children and they both own the house - so essentially they're living there to save money until they divorce but it's so hard to deal with when I know he's still living with her. He does stay with me most of the time and for that I'm grateful, but those few days a week he's there, when I know she's making him sick from all the arguments, espeically about me (she knows about me) - and that's another reason why she's trying to drag things out with the divorce. Ugh....it's just so messy....the kids and I just want him with us as a family but I just don't know when that will happen :( Is there ANYONE else out there that has been or is in a similar situation??

it all up to him and there is nothing you can do. if he really love you he can resolve this problem by moving out and stay separate from his wife for 6 to 9 month then his wife will have no choice but to devolve him. unless he the one don't want to move on to marry you. execute it always the easy way out for all marry men.