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We are still inlove, but another girl is pregnant. Help!

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I am in a horrible, heartbreaking and stressing situation right now. I am inlove with someone very deeply, he is my ex boyfriend. We had a wonderful relationship to the point that he wanted to marry me. We separated because he was going through alot of issues and also wanted me to get on the right track and go back to college. While we were separated, we were still very intimate and things between us were going very well, and we were going to get back together. One night he went out with his friends and had gotten very drunk, there happen to be a girl there who liked him very much, and took advantage that he was drunk, took him to a motel and had sex. When he woke up, he was very confused and left right away and told me what happen. Of course I was very upset with what happen, and I do not forgive him for that but I still love him. The girl is now pregnant. She is against abortion and so is he. He is friends with her, but he does not have any other feelings for her. He is very honest with me and tells me every detail about everything. We are still intimate at the moment and still loving towards eachother, we work at the same company, and he still tells me he loves me every day. At the same time, he is taking full responsibility for his actions and is going to doctor appointments with her and making sure everything is ok with the pregnancy and is making sure she is ok too. He tells me just because he is having a baby with her, does not mean they will be together. About 2 years ago I had an eating disorder, which caused alot of damage to my body, which lead me unable to ever reproduce a child. he saids that everything happens for a reason, and that maybe this is a chance for us to have a baby too, just not from me. He said once the baby is born he will be spending alot of time with the baby and also the mother of the baby but he still wants me in his life. I'm very afraid that he is going to fall inlove with her and leave my life completely and not try to fix things between him and I anymore. Every day he tells will always love me and that he hopes that one day, him and I could be together, just not right now because of the situation he is in, but I'm afraid that we will never be together and that also he will fall out of love with me and start to fall in love with her. It hurts me very much to go through this problem every day. We're trying so hard to work on making things better for us, but at the same time he is trying to be there for her too and the unborn baby. I want to give up on this completely, it is so difficult cause I'm so afraid that he will end up with her, it has been giving me nightmares, it is causing us to fight some nights, but I still love him with all my heart. Should I give just give up and move on? Or should I stay and keep trying to work things out? Please help, I am so confused.

We are still inlove, but another girl is pregnant. Help!

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I'm sorry to say this. But I feel you have to move on. He will be spending a lot now of his time with them. You two can still be friends but you need to keep your distance and be nothing more. Him being with her and you still attatched to him will just cause a lot more problems on your part. Just focuse on work for a while until someone new comes along.

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