Broken hearted

I have been in a wonderful relationship for 3 years. We have never had a fight and got along very well. Because I have a child still in high school we had planned on moving in together and getting married next year when she graduates. Friday my love calls me to tell me that his ex wife of 12 year wants to retry. He said he struggled with a decision for 6 weeks and finally decided that he needed to try because he always wanted his children under the same roof. I tried to be strong, supportive and put on a brave front and let him go. There is an empty hole in my heart and he continues to check on me daily. I never let him hear me cry, I tell him I wish him the best and hope he is happy. But when I hang up the phone I can barely breath. I cry my eyes out, I cant eat or sleep. I don't know how to get over this when nothing was wrong. He continues to tell me he loves me, that I am amazing and it just confuses me more. I ask him to just let go that it isn't fair to her to keep talking to me since he has made up his mind. He says he might be making the biggest mistake of his life and asks if I would wait, I of course said no even though in my mind I probably would. I need help, I don't know what to do. We have seen each other every weekend for 3 years and spent hours on the phone daily. I feel like I am going crazy. Please if anyone has experience in a break up where they have no control of the situation...please give me some advise on how to just get on with my life.

Only time can heal things, you are hurting now but trust me it gets better. What you need to do is have a clean break. you have your own life with your child to think about, everything happens for a reason and this is just one of them. I understand what he is saying about his kids under one roof but If he was unhappy then the same thing will happen again. Things never work out if someone else has been involved between getting back togather. Lets just say that he does want to get back with you in the near future, do you really want to be wondering if this is the day he will walk out again, this is a no win stuation for you. take a clean break and try to get on with things