I'm pregnant and do not know if I will still continue the communication with the daddy

I have met my ex bf in the Christian Website and we became good friends until we became we.. When he visited me in my country and got pregnant I felt disappointed with him. At first he wanted to abort the child but I fought for my baby. He treated me as gf but during the past 3 mos of staying here, he preferred to be with his friends and stayed with the family of his girl friend (not a lover). HE wasn't there when I had bleeding cuz my pregnancy is critical and whenever I need him. I have decided to forget him after that. On the day I was a about to accompany him in the airport as he was about to leave he told me he wanted to stay with me even for 3 days. I thought we would be fine. 3 days became ok. When he flew to thailand for another tour he had debt to my brother cuz i helped him to buy plane tickets for his tour and promised to pay me not included other debts of 390 pounds. It took him more than a mo to pay and I was in the depression cuz I was the one facing the shameness to my bro for him not paying that. Not only that, he hurt me when he said we better be friends cuz he's far so it means he gave me up already just because of the location. When he went back to UK I tried my self to forget him. I lost my job but with the help of my family and brother and savings, I am trying my best to support my pregnancy. We became ok when he was already in the UK, he's still unemployed. before he said he wasnt happy for the baby but when he went home he said he's happy but not yet told to his parents and family about this and it hurt me cuz im 6 mos already. Last time, he asked me to send money to his friend here. He wanted me to send it asap and got from the savings that he left for the baby. It's our savings of only 141 pounds left. I felt sad cuz he even care for the sake of his friend than me and the baby even if he knew i am in a critical condition and money is not enough. He told me he will replace it when he got job but he's having hard time to find job so im the one looking for a way to make money to add in our savings. i made him to promise that would be the last time but he didn't promise me.. Cuz for two mos time he already sent money more than I have already to a girl I dont trust. HE just said his friend need it for education but i feel he's giving more importance to other people than to his own flesh and blood. We had a n argument cuz of this and to end this up I still sent the money. I explained to him that when he got the job he better pay off first his debts in the UK. I wanted to stop communication with him cuz i feel not so important for him. I told him I will stop but he doesnt want to. I also doesnt want my baby to lose a dad. HELP ME OUT. I do not know if he's just so insensitive or im just martyr for everything. Because of this, I couldn't sleep so well. I do sometimes wake up int he morning and cant stop thinking the bad things he did. Pls help me.

Hi Fairy, I've just read your post, and there's a lot to take in there. You need to really think about looking out for yourself and your baby, as it sounds to me like this guy of yours isn't dedicated to supporting you both. Whilst you are both struggling financially, I think that if he is seriously thinking about a future with you and the baby he would be putting your needs first, before other friends he owes money to. Do you not think that you should tell him about your critical condition (I'm not sure what you mean by this)? Perhaps it will make this situation seem a little more black and white if you explain your situation to him and any compexities that he doesn't know about. You need to have a frank discussion with him to find out whether he is in fact just sitting on the fence (which it sounds like he is doing to me). From his point of view, maybe he is having difficulty coming to terms with the fact that he may/will have to tell his parents that you are expecting a baby. Do you know how his parents might react to this? If he is from a religeous background (parents), or he has strong religeous beliefs, then perhaps the pregnancy is something he is finding difficult to handle... Don't put up with any crap from this guy, as you could just find yourself getting into even deeper financial difficulties. I would suggest that you wait until you get some support from him, before you jump into helping him out - after all, what exactly has he done to support you so far? Does he care about what you are going through, your feelings, your financial situation, the future of you and your baby, your future together and how you may eventually live in the same place??? Let me know the answers to some of my questions, and I will check back again to see if I can help. These are just my opinions based on what you said in your post, so it is difficult to offer you possible solutions. I just think that you need to ask yourself some questions that you might not think of yourself if your mind is clouded, and you are feeling depressed. xx

Thanks Justin, I asked when he would stop supporting this girl in her education and when to stop sending cuz he even can\'t find way to pay his debts first in UK. He just told me he can t promise. What he replied he was just thinking of a business of buying cigars here and ask this girl to purchase here and sell those to UK. It also hurt me cuz he should ask me first about this than other person cuz I thought we\'re the one helping each other. About my pregnancy, Im having a placenta preavia (low lying of placenta) which will affect both the life of mine and my baby. He knows about it. He just told me he doesnt want me not to think of it cuz of my condition. I understand him biut i felt he did not understand what i\'d feel. and the belief that he will support still the friend who has family still to help. When it comes to his family he just told me he\'s afraid to tell it which the fact my family is more strict than his. Those things hurt me a lot the reason why I still feel he doesnt give more importance to us. These reasons make me to think to stop talking with him. We communicate until now and just asking for my condition. He never mentioned about our future and bout the baby\'s future. The only good thing that he told me was that He\'s excited and happy now for the baby to come out. But then there is something in myself that I feel losing my trust on him or already lost the trust. I understand that he still unemployed and not obliging him to send me support. He just left lillte amount of money which is really not enough to support my medical expenses and hospitalization. What I am doing as of now is to make ways even if I am still unemployed and my brother is always there to help me financially. In short, Im using my own money by selling things and help from my brother. I believe you are a fair person. Your advice will be very much appreciated. Hoping everything will be fine. Thanks a lot!