I want a threesome

I have been with my husband for the past 13yrs..we have always talked about at some point having a threesome. Last year I brought the subject up so we could start looking for another girl. At that point my husband said he was no longer interested because he didn't think he could handle seeing someone else touch me. I dropped the subject but still want to explore a womens touch. I don't want to do it behind his back but am getting more curious by the day. Any advice would be appriciated

Hi! My boyfriend and I are swingers but only because we both want to be. We had long open talks about what we wanted and what our guidelines where. Not all of those talks were always the quietest for both yelling and fun yelling reasons but they have to happen. You need to tell him how you feel about this but only after you can go to him with some good info including some sites where you can both look at the lifestyle. I would suggest Kasidie.com to start, I think that is still their name. You will need to know how you feel about situations where he will be touched by another woman too, etc. I would try to find out why he doesn't want to do any of this while you do but please oh please do not bring emotion into any of this. State fact and person feelings but no finger pointing emotions. I can't say that enough I really can't. You both need to know how you feel and maybe you can take baby steps like watching porn together or talking about things you would like to do while just you two are together. Start slow and always consider his feelings! He might just need to feel safe and be certain he won't loose you. You'd be surprised how easy men are to damage when you don't remember they have emotions about things that are similar to ours sometimes. Good luck and I hope this helps!