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Commit suicide because of breaking up, is it stupid?

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Hi all, this is my first post here and im seeking advice because im in really bad mood. I met that guy on the day I found out my bf cheated on me. He is my friend's friend and got a same problem. We are both overseas students under same college. I didnt care abt him at all at that time. After a week or two, i got invitation to his house party (through my friend, of course). I denied since I didnt know anyone, it's quite far from my place, and I got work until late. He tried to convince me, saying that he would pick me up, there is a guest room for me to stay over night and he will send me home the day after. I felt impolite if i still reject because of his zeal. At the party, I broke down when I was tipsy, I started crying crazily because I wasnt over my bf. He was the one who took care of me that night (I vomitted on his body, and everywhere). After that, we started exchanging story and keeping in touch (almost everyday). He told me almost everything, about his family, business, ex-gf, stuff like that. But at the same time, he gets angry if I dont text/call him first. He seeks attention from me like saying he got injury while playing soccers, he looked for me when he is drunk... Somehow, I felt annoyed but somehow, two broken hearts got closer. Then he went back home for holiday, about 4 months, but still kept in touch. He called me at midnight and introduced me to his friends. The feelings has grown up i guess, since we used sweet words while talking as other couples do. But there's no official proposal, no commitment. And it's strange that whenever I suggested to go out, he never made it(before he went for holiday). Valentine day i was on holiday but he got back to AUS already. he sent me sweet message and said "we're gonna do smth later". On the day I got back from holiday, i was seriously sick but we argued because he wanted me to come and stay over at his house, then go to school tgt the day after. The prob is he asked me to take a train to our school then he would pick me up at that station. Thus, I didnt go and he was upset. Later on, we settle down the prob and started going out, as a couple but not a real couple. I went to his house before he left for Easter holiday (with family and business meeting involved). I have to admit that I was so into him at that time (and until now), we spent that night "together" and I took it as a proposal. But after holiday, he came back, we didnt meet (i was busy with studies and stuffs). However, I felt like I cant bear this situation anymore. I need something official. I want to be with him as much as I can (as he will go back for good in 2 months, I knew it after coming back from holiday, and we both knew that our relationship has no future), so I pushed him to make it official- our relationship. I told him that we dont have time, just being happy tgt for 2 months, Im fine with it (sounds silly though). But then he told me that "we better stop before it's getting deeper and more hurt when separate". He said he had realized something when he was overseas, and he thought that we better stay as friends because we had no future, everything against us. I know everything he said is true but I just cant accept. I thought we should give us a try, and I am willing to follow him to live in his country, even though it's hard because his hometown is still wild, kind of a forest area. when i expressed those thoughts, he just kept silence. I asked him why he didnt stop earlier but he said he had feeling and it's not easy to stop.Next day, he asked me if Im ok, he forced me to tell the truth and I did tell him the truth that i was in very bad condition, kept crying, couldnt sleep and eat... But he told me I was blaming on him,and I cant force him to love me (by crying and bullying myself like that). It really hurts me badly. Now, he just dumped me in the bin. I asked him to spend a bit of time on my bday but he rejected (i know he had no plans on that day), but then he is always available for others. 2 days ago, I accidentally sent a text message to him, it supposed to be another one (similar name) and he said I were trying to seek his attention. All those things made me feel like he just used me to cure his loneliness, and all he wanted from me is SEX. Once it's done, game over. He said he want us to be friends, but the way he treats me now is just horrible (from my perspective). Now Im totally depressed, I lost my trust in love or any guys because he saved me when I broke up with my ex, and now he turned me into this kind of person. It was him to chase me before but now it's me who begging love from him (that's what he thinks and says). I feel like I cant stand this anymore. My mind is totally empty, I cant concentrate on anything and I hate that. But then my friends tell me that committing suicide doesnt make any differences, he will not care abt it and it just makes him despise me. How can I get through this situation then?

Commit suicide because of breaking up, is it stupid?

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Your friends are right, & I think you just need a good girls night out. Concentrate on school afterwards. And get a rebound if you need one. I'm sure there are plenty of guys wanting to have you

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