I cheated

I cheated on my wife and lied about it for ten years. Now it is all out in the open and i really want to repair the damage i have done. But i dont know how to acclomplish this. I am not good at communication. I love my wife very much and do not want to hurt her anymore. I need to make this right and save my marriage. What can i do to show her i love her and it will never happen again?

First, I am so pleased to see you want to maintain your marriage as too many people are divorcing now. I have been cheated on before by my wife so I hope my point of view can help you. If it was just sex you had make sure to tell her that. In general Men consider cheating by sex the worse girls consider cheating by relationship the worse, so that may make it a little less severe to her. Also, tell her all the things you wrote, that you love her and want to always be with her and want to fix it. Give yourself to her and do anything she needs to get over this. Be transparent with her, give her all your passwords so she can read your emails, text, everything. This will show her you no longer want to lie and want to fix this. When you talk always say how you feel and never tell her how you feel and also hold her hand while you talk and look her in the eye and be as loving and sincere as possible. Most importantly never lie to her ever again and give her that promise you will never lie or cheat on her ever again. Tell her how bad you feel and if you end up crying when you tell her how bad you feel, the better as you need to not only tell her, but also show her that you love her and want only her for the rest of your life. You may have made a bad mistake in the past by cheating and another by lying, but you ARE doing the right thing now by wanting to make it up to her and save your relationship.

Sorry, what I meant was, "say how you feel and never tell her how she feels".