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My fiancee is 8 years older than me and very excited about my accidental pregnancy?

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I was on the birth control pill, and i used the rhythm method to avoid pregnancy, yet somehow i'm still 9 weeks pregnancy. I'm only 19, and still have so many plans for my life. But my fiancee is 27 and revved and ready to go with having a baby. I just feel scared and really like my life is over. He's had so many experiences and I haven't- I don't want to resent him for anything. I still want to go to beauty school and travel and many other things. Also we live with his mom... and somehow he can't manage a budget even though he brings home over 500 dollars a week, so many of our bills are late. The whole situation is so frustrating because he doesn't understand why i'm so apprehensive and unsure. Are these feelings normal? Am i being selfish?

My fiancee is 8 years older than me and very excited about my accidental pregnancy?

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If I were you, yes I'd be in full out panic mode. You're right, you are 19, and have only just begun life.. you have 3 options: abortion, keep the baby, or have the baby and put it up for adoption. All those things that you mentioned that you want to do, will all be on hold and stopped untill after your baby graduates high school, and even then you'll have the burden of loans and monetary deficiency. The conversation you need to have with your fiance though, is, can y'all even handle having a baby? Are y'all stable enough? In my opinion.. the answer to both of these is no, from what all you wrote.. best of luck

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