Should he spend the time with me or his mates?

Hi, i'm not sure if i'm getting in a state over nothing and would like to know what anyone else thinks! Me and my b/f live many miles apart and only get to see each other at weekends. This year we had decided to spend new year together at my house but now his best mate has asked him to go for a new year party where he lives and it seems thats where he would rather be as he's not mentioned staying with me since. Due to family committments (ie my child!) theres no way i could go to his mates party with him so it looks like it will be me and my daughter in my house while him and his mates party in the new year 100 miles away. I'm really upset about this, i know he had his mates before he met me and i dont mind any time he wants to spend with them but to want to change plans that we had already made hurts more than he knows. I really dont want to talk to him about it either as if i tell him i'm upset he may decide to spend the time with me to keep me happy but then he could resent the fact that he'd missed out on the fun because of me but if i dont say anything i just go on being hurt inside. Am i being silly taking this all too much to heart? I'd be really glad of anyone elses views Thanks xx

Hi, If possibl u should visualize the case of mother,wife and son(wife's husband).the son loves his mother as well as wife but he dont know whom to make happy and whom not.So if possibl try to understand his position.So right now he must also be in trouble with this issue as he had promised with u and now his freinds are also planning other thing. As far as my mind say you are doing the right thing by not putting any pressure on him.Let him choose his way. Take care do reply

Hi, you dont say how long you have been together, which I think is relevant, if this is a fairly new relationship then I do think you should let him find his way. However, if you have been seeing each other for a while, well then I think he is being rather selfish, not considering you and the fact that this will leave you alone whilst he is out with the mates he is free to be with the vast majority of the time. Is he spending Xmas with you? I do also feel that you should speak to him about this as clearly it is hurting you, calmly, nicely, explain how hurt you are. If he really loves you I feel he will put you where you should be 1st. If not, perhaps it's time to tell him he can spend all his weekends with his mates too. Take care & All the very best.