How can I talk to him & repair this??? Help me

Me & my boyfriend have been seeing each other foralmost 8 months. we both have been married twice & were in lying & cheating marriages as well asi had a mentally & physically abbusive marriage. We care deeply for each other & i tink i love him not sure if im in love yet he says the same. He doesnt want to hurt me & trys to put a time on how long ur together before ur in love. Anytime we get close he seems to push me away or when hes stressed & things go wrong in hislife it trns on our relationship.what can we do to fix this problem he says our relationship is90-100% great we rarely argue or disagree enjoy our time together etc but i think we r missing dting each other & growing in intamacy i dont mean sex intamacy we seem to never go do things we enjoy alone. we went from me staying wit him fri nite to mon to fri nite to wed maybe we are smothern each other a lil help me plz i dont wanna lose him

Since you were both in bad relationships in the past you may start to try to pick up on similarities between this relationship and your old ones. May he rushed into love too quickly which is why he is trying not to go down the same path this time. I would suggest to just be patient and in time things will get better. also the two of you should seek advice from counselors.