Husband and suggestive texting

Hi, my husband and I have been together for 20 years and married for 15. We have 2 small children. Over the years I have noticed that he texts women very suggestively. He says he is just flirting because it makes him feel better and there is nothing physical. I have always had access to his e-mail, etc but recently he blocked my access because he says I get paranoid when I see them and they do not mean anything. He then went on vacation and asked that we DO NOT come because we stress him out. He tried to meet up with the girls he has been texting in the past. Then he recently met a girl while queuing and gave her his phone number and the same thing started again. These things he hides from me and I found out accidentally. He says if I do the same he does not mind as long as there is nothing physical because he is secure in how much I love him. I told him that we need to make an arrangement that is best for the kids and I don't want to have anything to do with him. He can do what he likes. His choice was to continue texting his friends even though he knows it hurts me. Am I overreacting or is what he is doing strange?

Hiya. No, you are not overreacting at all. If he truely loved you and respected your feelings then he would not put you through all this hurt. He is blatantly cheating right in front of your face and shows no shame in doing so either. Please don't stand for it, you deserve better. I really do understand how you feel, as my husband ( now ex) put me through the same. Flirted, txt other women, cut off our joint internet etc. Please be strong, respect and believe in yourself and your 2 kids. What he is doing is so wrong. Give him an ultimatum, either it stops or you leave. Good luck and I hope it works out for you.

Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

Hello, sorry to hear of your issue. My questions to you are 1. how did you find out about it? Did he tell you voluntarily? Does he even feel sorry about it? If he is remorseless and blatantly does it in front of you, something is definitely of concern there. 2. Is there a history of mental illness/schizophrenia in your family? Paranoia is a symptom of mental disease and if you have custody of the children and are a single mother he could use this against you. Just thinking outside the box and about your future with your kids

That was a really an objective response. Thank you. To answer the questions see below: 1. I usually find out about it by accident if he leaves his phone lying around. When I questioned him about it, he eventually told me after some prodding. He was smiling so it seems that he was not sorry. 2. There is no history of mental illness/schizophrenia in my family. We already talked about being apart and handling the custody of the kids. Then he always comes back and tells me he misses me and I keep thinking that being together is best for the kids. It has happened too often and now I think being apart might be the only solution. Thanks again for the response