How long a wait?

hi, i had my baby about 11 months ago and its after that my husband to whom i've been married for nearly three years stopped having sex and any intimate contact that may or may not lead to sex.Keeping away from me in bed,no kisses ,no hugs,not even intimate talk.When i got fed up i asked him so he said that i was fat and he was not sexually attracted towards me.I have lost 5 kilograms since then but he still shows no change in his attitude.OK,if i do accept his lack of attraction...does this justify his lack of love?his explanation for his attitude is that i am not respecting his wishes and getting slim..so this shows that i do not love him.We are also having fights over petty matters and ends in him disrespecting me and talk about divorce. Can anyone tell me PLEASE is there any criteria to fulfill to gain respect and love in a relatonship and what shud i do...shud i wait 4 him to get better or accept this behaviour until i get slim according to his desires...i feel hurt and seems like its my body and not me that he wants.Just 4 ur info....i was 75 kilograms at 5'8" when i go pregnant and now am 83 kilograms from 95 kilograms at my baby's birth.

Hi, As u said its ur body that he desires then you,it seems true.You should talk to him about this clearly,what he wants ur body or ur companionship. Love is something above physical things. Try to control ur body weight if possible but i dont think it has any relation with love.So i can only say ur husband wants u to look good,so he can feel gud after looking at u. take care