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Im getting married in September to a wonderful lady, we have been dating for 5 years. She really has made me into a better person by far. Well one problem we've had is I was a compulsive liar, I guess I still am, I want to tell her the truth but sometimes lies just come out and next thing I know Im regretting it completely. I have recently came clean about them all but one and I am worried sick that if I tell her this last one she will have trouble trusting me again, and with it being so close to our wedding I really dont want to ruin it. It's a small lie but that has grown to something huge. I just dont have my license to drive, I drive every day to and from work, and generally drive long distances. I just lost my license after I moved and didnt have the money to pay the ticket. She has asked me before if I had a License and I told her yes. Then something came up when with my family and made her ask again and I continued to Lie. I want to tell her the truth before we get married but I really dont know how to go about it because this lie has grown into such a huge weight on my back that It's starting to effect how I react to things. When typing this it feels like its such a small issue but when I go to tell her I get a block like, if I tell her will she ever trust me again, will she accept it and we still get married. I dont think I could marry her without being completely honest with her but not having that full trust in someone can ruin marriages before they even start. If it wasnt for her I probably would be in jail or dead. So I could not imagine being without her........I know I need to tell her but I dont know how to go about it. Any Help would be greatly appreciated.

I messed up..... need help fixing

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hello, i think you should tell her. it will be worse if you dont tell her and she finds out when you get pulled over by the police and they ask for your licence and you tell them you dont have it. the best option would be to either tell her to her face or if you dont feel like thats the best option write her a note, this was its hand written and might have more "meaning" to it. dont text it to her or use any other form of social media to tell her because she wont think you have enough "strength" in the relationship to tell her?

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