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Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I are 20 years old. We are together for 3 months. We had our ups and downs, mainly because he was scared to show his emotions, and you know how girls are, we like to hear something nice from our guy once a week. Main problem occured when he said he had some test (we are both in college) that he had to pass and he can't meet me at all for like until they pass (that's like week and a half), which seemed stupid to me, because everyone can put out 2 hours in whole week to meet his girlfriend. He said after he sees me, he is thinking of me and can't concentrate on studying. What a bullshi**. So, normally I objected to it, and said he was not a good boyfriend and that maybe we should take a break from each other. He agreed and we saw each other few days later, he was a mess. He was depressed for some reason, said he is physically and mentally hurt and that even after exams he probably wouldn't give me the time I deserve since he will get a job and then he will only work and sleep??? He also said he doesn't know if he wants to countinue this relationship and that he is bored in this relationship. He said he feels like that since we have been fighting about him not spending enough time. I don't know what I did wrong. Now we're on a break until his exams pass, but I have a feeling like he suddenly changed, because a day before the fight everything was good. My question is, should I break up with him and just move on, or should I try hard and what to do to keep him?

Break up or try harder?

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going off the attitude I read, I dont think you want to continue you want someone to tell you that you need to break up with him so you feel better with what you already want to do. Not sure what you all are going to college for but during exams is one of the most stressful part of a students life, especially if your trying for a major that requires high marks. Or even if he has a scholarship that requires a certain GPA and he is currently below it. Back to Exams being the most stressful time of a students life, couple that with the addition of a gf who feels your not giving her the time of day + suggesting you take a break. Now 3 months is at that point where you ether know you care for the person or you tip your hat and say take care. The fact that he is looking rough means everything is taking its toll and most likely he cares for you, take what he said, that you deserve someone who can give you the time of day. Meaning he only wants what will make you happy even though your ready to give up on him, he doesnt care as long as at the end of the day your happy. My suggestion is support him, cause you will most likely regret losing him down the road when your with a guy that still doesnt give you the time of day but could care less that your bothered by it.

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Thank you SIRGRIZZ87 for response. I know that exam time is really stressful, but it is weird that he doesn't want to see me at all. I would understand that he said we wont see each other as much as we used to (every 2, 3 days), but at all is a little too much. He's not that good at college, and only wants to pass. I still have feelings for him, but he said he doesn't feel anything anymore. I don't know if stress is speaking or he really feels like that?

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