I don't know what to do

My husband and I are both 75 and married five years' ago after losing our partners to cancer. I married him because I loved him but didn't know about his mood swings which is like living in a Jekyll & Hyde situation and have got to the point where I can't stand it any more. We have discussed parting very briefly but before we go any further he is to visit his doctor soon to see if any help can be gained. I don't think either of us hold out much hope as the problem is hereditary. I am so mixed up I can't think straight. I am not afraid of loneliness as, basically, I am a loner and enjoy my own company. I think I am more afraid of my husband's reaction if the parting becomes messy. I have always felt he married me because he wanted someone to look after him because he expects to be waited on. He asked me to marry him the first time we met. There have been other problems within the marriage and I could cope with those but with the moods on top it is just too much. It was easy to say I loved him but the strain of the moods and problems is killing it. Could you help me and give me your advice and thoughts.

Hi I lost my mum to cancer October last year. I am really sorry for your loss, it can really change a person, as it did me. I feel very upset for you, and am here for you. Can you have time apart, stay with a friend. I do hope you are safe!!!!! Please confide in your friends and family too, they will not think any different of you, even if you feel you can't tell them. They will want the best for you It is likely you partner may need medication for their mood, if he cared for his wife he may have lots of emotions he had not dealt with. He seems to be taking this all out on you xx Please be safe, stay with a friend Even get done support so you can talk to your husband without him getting angry xx

Thanks "Angel" for helping and hope you are coping with the loss of your Mum as it's an awful thing to have to deal with particularly if you were very close. Things just aren't good we're seeing a counsellor but I don't know whether I can live the rest of my life with him, only time will tell I suppose. Big decision at 75 to start again.