Surviving adultry

my husband has had a drinking problem for over 3 years, I have felt very alone during this time, no matter how much I tell him it is causing problems in our relationship he feels he does not have a problem. I have been forced to spend a lote of time on my own due to him being drunk and passed out early most nights. I got sick of being on my own and started going out with my younger girlfriends, I ended up having sex with someone else. I think i did it because I am so lonely! I love my husband more than anything and realy wish I hadn't done it, I have told him about it but he doesn't seem to understand why I did it. how do i explain it him why i did it and that I have been miserable and lonely for a long time without making him feel bad.

i think your husband doesnt understand because he thought you were devoted to him. i think you have to address the drinking issue first in a kind friendly way if you want to save your marriage or youl end up doing it again

Kylie, how old are you and how old is your husband? When you had sex with the other man what did you feel exactly...did you have a feeling of betrayal ? Had you been drinking? I can try and gove you a hand but I need additional details. Thanks, v.