Problem trusting myself

Hey guys i'm a twenty year old man who is not sure what to do when it comes to women. I want to have a serious relationship with a woman, no messing around or just dating for sex etc. I am looking for a wife not a girlfriend. The problem is I am a guy and like all guys I have an unquenchable lust for sex. It seems like I am always thinking about sex (even though I really don't want to). I do want to have sex, but I only want to share that experience with one woman which is my wife to be. My reasoning for not wanting to abstain from sex is somewhat religion based but mainly because I don't want to. I want to be completely dedicated to my wife and by minimizing the number of sexual relationships I have with women it makes it that much more special. So here is my problem, I would like to start getting into relationships or at least try with some women since the chances of a wife falling into my lap are slim to none. However, I don't trust myself around women. I have a problem controlling my sexual urges so it makes it hard to have a girlfriend. I have only had two girlfriends to date and both of them ended up becoming sexual. So I want to become more experienced in having a good relationship, but by doing so I put myself in a difficult situation in which I have to fight my with my nature. I would really appreciate any advice I can get.

If I understand your problem correctly I believe that it is really important that you abstain from sex in any relationship that you get into for a certain period of time. I would set yourself a goal of either a number of days or a number of dates. Hold yourself to these goals and be upfront with a girl you would like to potentially date. Most girls, and the kind that you should consider "Wife Material," would appreciate a man being upfront and honest along with wanting to see if a relationship is going to work before sex.