Dealing with a break up

I had been with my boyfriend for over five years and lived together for two years we had also been engaged. Since living with him I found out his true personality but I loved him so much that I stuck by him. The words I would use to describe him would be a liar, cheat and a thief with no respect for anyone other than himself. He ended up not being the person I fell in love with and can't seem to come to terms with the way he treated me for all those years. I did everything for him and feel that he took me for granted. I feel that I have lost a best friend which my love turned to hate. When we eventually broke up we still lived together for a few months and he behaved in a manner like he was trying to make me jealous to beg on my knees to fight for him. How can a loving relationship where you commit to spend the rest of your life with someone turn so sour in an instant, to the point of being unbelievable.

People lose focus of what's important to them but clinging to temporary things. It's not your fault but it does happen. I'm feeling some awful hurt myself right now and I'm embarrassed. Breaking up is hard, don't rush to feel better or hurt yourself further by trying to figure things out when it's over. Let go a little at a time... Get used to not seeing him so much or talking to him so much, stay busy! Stay out of reach, that's how you eventually start to heal. Hugs and good luck.

Thank you for the comforting reply the things you have said is exactly what I am trying to be strong at doing. As when I am alone my mind starts to wonder over every aspect of the relationship. Which I wasn't sure was a good or bad thing as there are nasty and beautiful memories. The hardest part is erasing my mind of the hurt and moving on positively in life as he was such a big part of it. I feel so silly for being so oblivious to the lies and think the 5 years was the biggest lie, much as the saying goes love is blind.