How to move out

I have an office friend who was already in a relationship. Both of us started spending time and without saying anything got into a relationship. For few months things went good. But then everything started getting worse. He started moving back to his girlfriend.I tried to maintain a healthy relationship saying at least we were friend and can be. But thins went so wrong, he moved on in his life but I was not able to. Now I am unable to focus in my personal and professional life. I have to face him everyday and in the nights this feeling literally kills me. Please help.

Dear ANUCHUGH, Thank you for being kind enough to share your story with us. You seem to be in a bit of a hard place right now. For that, I apologize but I do want to encourage you that things will get better. I am sure that you are an amazing person and with that being said, you should never settle for a guy who was so willing to create a relationship with you while being in a relationship with another woman. If he would do something as terrible as that to her, why wouldn't he do that to you? You deserve much more than that. It is very difficult to maintain a friendship with someone whom you fell extremely hard for, but it is possible - with time. You seem to have very negative self talk, honey. You need to stop telling yourself that you cannot move on with your life. You most certainly can and you will. Facing him everyday is most definitely a challenge, BUT no challenge that you are given in this life is to difficult to get through. I usually use my priorities (in your case it would be your professional and personal life) to distract my mind from all the chaos going on in my life. It is okay to grieve over losing someone you obviously cared about, but you have to be the factor that is willing to make the transition into moving on. You're a strong, brave person and I want you to know that you can do anything that you set your mind too. Night time is usually the worst because that's when your mind is bored leaving you to reflect on all the things that are going wrong. Instead of reflecting on the bad, try to reflect on the good. Instead of thinking negatively, try thinking of positive solutions to your situation. If that doesn't work for you, try doing things that will take your mind off of the problem - reading, watching t.v., listening to HAPPY music, writing in a journal, etc. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but I want you to know that He is with you at all times and you're not alone in this situation. Trust in the Lord to make you better and heal all wounds. All wounds do take time and I have faith in your problem that within time, it will all get better. I'll pray for you. Keep your head up, darling. Love, Pazley ♥