Blackmailed by my ex

Let me start by saying this that I come from conservative family. This is very embarrassing situation for me. I am 40 yrs old. I had a boyfriend before marriage but circumstances were bad and he could not handle the pressure and gave up on me. I was married to someone else. Suddenly he met me on FB four yrs. ago. We started to chat casually but he wanted more which I wasn't comfortable to do. I realized my mistake and ended the friendship with him. Now suddenly he is calling me in front of my husband during weekends. Giving blank calls and talking something when my husband picks up phone which gives me the idea that he is on the line. I have found that this guy has very unhappy married life and have become womanizer too. He has this passive aggressive disorder developed from bad childhood and huge ego issues. I am changing my phone number too. I want to know why this guy who dumped me want to ruin my life? He just can't handle anything. He has all this resentment jealousy and bad intention towards me if nothing else. He has this huge negative aura around him. It was his fault that our affair didn't work but now I don't want to commit any adultery and very much in love with my husband. When will this idiot leave me alone?

Have you tried filing for a peace order through the courts or filed harassment charges? I am not sure where you are located, I am in the United States, but that is what we can do here. Have you also blunt out told him, "Leave me alone." you can also say that and than say if you continue to harass me than i'm filing charges for harassment.

I also had an Ex who was very similiar. He didn't want me to be with anyone else but was seeing other woman. When I finally did leave him he threatened to email naked pictures of me to people. Men do these things because they want to show you that they can get a reaction from you, control you. Do not give in, I agree with the other user to be blunt and clear. I made it impossible for him to contact me unless he showed up at my house. And I went to the police and had them give my Ex a warning, he knows if he comes near me I will call the police. Let him know you are serious that you no longer want him in your life in anyway. There may come a point where you have to be honest with your husband about this guy. Better he hear it from you than from anyone else. Emotional affairs can be tough to overcome but it sounds like in the end, you made the right decision.

How crazy this guy is guess! he was calling me on weekends from my native country and that's half a way around the globe. Just imagine...So police protection is out question here. I have changed my phone number now and hope to live with peace. I don't have any plans to tell my husband yet but we'll see. As I said he is psycho plus passive aggressive person.. poisonous snake