Confusion and dilemma

I met a guy a few months back during a holiday with a few friends. He is a friend's friend. We hit it off like a house on fire from the time we first spoke. I come from a fairly traditional Indian family and I turned 25 last December which implies that I have parents breathing down my neck to get married. So when he asked me out (while I was rather tipsy) I told him that I’m not up for anything casual. He responded saying that he was looking for something concrete as well and that he liked me a lot and that we should definitely give it a try. After the holiday, we went back to our respective cities and I didn’t really believe it could work with so I decide to forget about it. Surprisingly, he kept in touch with daily phone calls and messages. I still tried not to get too involved in it as it was long distance. One day he decided to surprise me and ended up coming to my place in my city and we ended up having a nice time. Later at a friend’s engagement, we met again and things got a little more intimate. Once back, we continued to be in touch and had gotten a lot closer than before. In the meanwhile, the pressure for marriage at home was there and building rapidly. I didn't talk too much about it to him because I wasn't sure of many things myself, like if I liked him enough to get married to him or if I even loved him. I just knew that I enjoyed talking to him and that I wanted to get to know him more. This was followed by a few more surprises from his side and each visit was better than the last. All of this is wrapped around one thing, he never wanted to make things official between us. He admitted that I was definitely not just another friend but he never referred to me as his girlfriend or even spoke of a future together. I've been a little pushy and demanding in my past relationships and so this time I did not put any kind of pressure on him to make things official or give our relationship a name. All hell broke loose when my parents decided to arrange a meeting between us and another family with marriage on their mind. I've met marriage prospects earlier but it was never when I was seeing someone and so it never seemed like a big deal. I always went with a free mind and hence was able to give the guy a fair chance to make an impression. But things are different now. They want a wedding in October in case I do decide that the guy I’m going to meet fits the criteria well enough. It seemed it was high time that I discuss this with him. I told him my parents’ plan. And by the grace of God, I at least got an appropriate reaction from him in that it upset him. I mean, at least, it bothered him that there are chances I may get married soon and that if he really wanted to be with me, he’d have to make a decision about it ASAP because I can’t wait forever. This was a late night conversation wherein I realized how much I’d really started caring about him. It may have been very overwhelming for him because he couldn't give me an answer right away. I told him that it wouldn't be possible for me to be friends with him and that if he decides that things can’t move ahead for us then we should probably stop right away. We haven’t spoken much since then and I’m missing him terribly now. The meeting with the other guy is due this week and I want to clear things between us but I don’t know how to ask him for an answer again. Please help me, I honestly care about this guy and don’t want things to end.

I have two responses: Try to talk to him and if he is avoiding you, he is not serious enough to marry you. Forget this as summer fling and move on but still you can take some time to think over to the situation. Figure out who you are as a person. Are you for arranged or love marriage? Decide...