Telling husband you don't want to be with him anymore

How do I tell my husband that I don't want to be with him anymore? we have 3 beautiful children together. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore. I have caught him several times on dating sites so I don't think he is in love with me any more. I just don't know how to brake it to him that I don't want to be with him anymore. Can anyone help me please

its easy when both have no feelings for eachother,just talk when the time is right

I don't know anything about the background story here, so excuse me if I am way off target, but given that your husband isn't physically abusive or something like that: Can you really say that you have done everything in your power to save your marriage? Have you talked to your husband about what you have been feeling? Have you given him a chance to see what's about to happen? Love isn't a magical state, it requires constant work. If you feel you have fallen out of love, you can fall back into love by changing yourself. Look for the positive things instead of the bad things. Start acting like someone who is in love - give love. When you have three children, don't you owe it to them to really give it your all? I came to this forum because of my relationship problems. My wife is kind of in the same situation as you, but we're working hard to save our marriage. When our problems started for real she asked me to think long and hard about why we were together. I ended up reading the following book, and it really helped me put into words why I want to stay with her. I am really sceptical of books like these, but this one was really well written with lots of great food for thought: http://www.amazon.com/Good-Leave-Stay-Step---Step/dp/0452275350/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1377672106&sr=8-2&keywords=stay+or+leave

I found him on a few dating sites he used to tell me he loves me all the time now he won't tell me he won't talk to me unless its on Facebook even if we r in the same room I have tried to talk to him and I have told him a few times we should go to counselling but he says there is no need we don't have any problems

You are both distant in this relationship. It's pretty common to be attracted to other people when you feel something is lacking in your own relationship. It's not the best idea to feed those toughts nutrition by actively going to dating sites and I think that's a sort of infidelity. If one half of the relationship thinks there is a problem, then there IS a problem. I don't think he's unaware of your problems, but pride, shame, fear or any number of feelings can make it hard to admit that there actually is a problem... and to risk being a little generalising... guys aren't exactly the most skilled persons when it comes to communicating their feelings... at least not in the same way that you do :-) I hope you will manage to get through to him so you can start working together to save this marriage. Maybe you could try to get out a little more? I found that going out to eat once in a while, maybe before you pick up the kids if evenings are difficult, is a great way to reconnect. Then there are no computers or tvs and it's easier to focus on the two of you. Try to make plans, something you can share and look forward to. Maybe you could set aside some time every day where cell phones are off and you have maybe 30 minutes to an hour of quality time?