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My boyfriend doesn't love me

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Hi i'm aashi. i am from india. my problem is my bf. me n my bf used to work together. we used to go out as a friend for drinks and all after work. we started liking each other so we started our relationship but my bf clearly stated that he will never get marry with me coz of his parents. even i agreed coz in the starting i wasnt serious. but slowly gradually i started falling in love with him dont knw why. whenever we uded to go out i was the 1 who used to pay the bills. n always used to feel tht though we have sexual relationship he treats me as a friend only. till 1 n 1/2 years it was continuing which used to hurt me the most but i always tried and helped financially n emotionally both so tht he could love me back but it never happened. like 2 couples kiss each other..hold each other.. call each other in the night n talk n say baby i miss u n all it never happened. suddenly i planned to go to canada for my post graduation in september. i saw some changes in my bf.. little bit softer than what he was. he also made me meet with his family..n his family also loves me now..but whenevr i ask bout this relation he says he needs time n he likes me..but he is rude at times and sometimes like in 15 days he sayd he misses me otherwise he doesnt say. he never calls..but whenever he needs something he talks to me very nicely but wen it comes be little bit romantic he never is.. he always seems unhappy to me..even if i want to talk something that y dont u call n y dont u do this..he becomes so rude n angry as if i am not happy what he does n i always complain n all.. just 4 days ago.. again his behaviour was so formal n plain..even wen i call he hardly picks up or call me in return..he always talk thru msg..n then to what he wants to talk thts it..4 days ago i asked him whether he loves or wants to be with me forever.. then he says he likes me n whether he wants to be with me forever he never thought about it.. n i also would like to add that 15 days ago he told me that if i get canadian visa then take him with me too..n if u want to get marry lets get marry.. and after 15 days again he has changed coz my visa didnt come..he didnt clearly told me but i sensed tht.. so 4 days ago i told him to break up the relation.. so he said ok..after half an hour he msgd me n told that he needs time for our relationship and he really likes me..but i am always in hurry..but its been 4 days neither i msgd or call him nor he did.. now i miss him coz i really love him..but he hurt me a lot.. i want your suggestion whether i should go upfront or talk to him or should i wait him to contact me first.. or i should forget him n move on..? please help me guys i need your help

My boyfriend doesn't love me

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You are a mess. I am sorry. You seem like a nice girl in an abusive relationship. It is obvious he is an egotistical maniac who is using you. Move on and hurt for a while and then get over it. I know you are addicted and perhaps you will always love him, but love is irrational. If you got him love would vanish at least his would and he would treat you worse and you would hurt more. The head can't rule you but neither can the heart. You have to have both and alas you only have one. It hurts.

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