The love you but just not IN love with you scenario

Have been together 10 years.. Engaged for 4. Had our ups and downs financially with a failed business and ongoing step children problems over this time that saw us live apart a couple of times, I have a 15 year old son and he has 3 kids slightly older that I raised as my own since they were young,but we always managed to get though it and now that the kids are finally grown up and don't need us as much anymore, after our last argument, again about one of the kids, I didn't want to argue anymore so we didn't speak for nearly a week. Then I went overseas for 3 weeks with my son and when I got back he said he was moving out and still loves me but is not IN love with me. I found his profile on a dating site and confronted him and he says he's only been talking to 1girl but hasn't met up with her yet. He's been going out with his work mates a lot and is planning a trip with them to Thailand.It's been nearly 9 months now and He says he wants to be close friends always and it breaks his heart how he's hurt me. Funny thing is we are still great friends and still get along fantastic, we even recently went on a holiday to Hawaii together for 10 days and had the best time. We speak a couple of times a week and he still comes to family events and we have weekend breakfast out most weekends, he always kisses me, sometimes passionately and I feel like I'm getting mixed signals..the problem is, I still love him and want him back and for things to be the way they were. But what do I do ? Continue to just be friends and hope he changes his mind. Do you think he will? Do I stop seeing him for a while hoping that absence makes the heart grow fonder or stopping acting like a fool, move on and start dating myself. I just font know what to do. hELP !

Well, they say that love is just deep friendship with sexual attraction attached. Is that what's going on here? If so, the answer's simple even if your guy doesn't see it that way. But also remember to be good to yourself. If this hurts you, I'd recommend not dating right away. Do things that make you happy, figure out if he's still what you want. If so, I'd say approach him about this. Love isn't all that complicated. Some people give up what they have because they think it's this mystical cinematic pleasure cruise. And obviously it isn't just that. Good luck.